In the last 12 months or so, I've noticed my creative partner has been acting strangely toward me. I feel up until recently we've shown each other respect and admiration for 30 years, being musical buddies since the 'dawn of time'. It now seems my partner is expressing contempt for me, my contributions and my character. I'm sorry if this becomes a rant ... Our relationship is based mainly on music and, although I'm the main song writer, I have always included and encouraged my partner in the process of writing songs - and he's penned a couple of really good tunes. My own admiration for my partner's musical ability (let's call him X, for brevity) is his technical knowledge and ability. He's the kind of musician who really explores the details of groove and structure. In short, I think we compliment each other because his technical knowledge has always married well with my intuitive and/or expressive ability. My strength in music is more focused on writing and narrative (lyrics) and the wonder of discovering melodies that bring those stories to life. I'm not a trained musician, except that I've been doing this for a while now (200 songs and counting). I also sing (apparently I'm pretty good) and currently play bass guitar (my favourite instrument), although I have played six-string guitar for more than 30 years. One of things we agreed on very early on was to always consult the other before making final decisions. When introducing a new song to the band, X and I would always come to an agreement as to the new songs place (or not) in our song list. We would spend fabulous hours together crafting a new high. It's really been great. When creating promotional material for upcoming gigs, X and I would always collaborate and both seal off the job. We've always had a pretty good idea how we wanted to portray ourselves visually, artistically. Perhaps most importantly of all, we've never personally attacked each other. This has all changed recently and I'm lost as to know how to confront this situation. For example, as a graphic designer, the responsibility has always fallen onto me to initiate graphic material for CD covers and promotional posters. This is something I love to do and I have the skills and knowledge to accomplish it quickly and to a high standard. It also helps that X has a background in fine arts and I'm always happy to include his input during the process (and I assure you he always has something to input). But recently this dynamic has changed. X decided, without any mention to me, that he had designed our next band poster. I might have let the incident go if it wasn't for how shockingly bad the poster was, and I'm confident that had I suggested using a fluoro-green Godzilla as an image to promote our band and its songs it would have been laughed out of existence. For context, I have tested the edges of our band's imagery in the past and have no regrets when X or others have kept me from going too stupid. And get this - right after the Godzilla reveal I went home and designed my own poster. I emailed it to him and his single-worded response was "Gay". That's it. Gay. As I mentioned, I'm a serious lyric writer, which simply means I work damn hard to get to a final lyric through many, many drafts . However, X has no qualms about presenting a first draft of his own lyric and insisting that it's going onto the band's song list. Any suggestions I make now about possibly fine-tuning his lyrics or questioning his motives is met with restrained hostility at the best (it's that look in his eyes and the snide remark). In the last few months this has grown an extra terrible head in the form of X wanting to take the musical feel of the band toward more blues and dance-oriented (he simply deletes a few songs from our final song list and inserts his own). This resulted last week in a gig where we threw out our last set list in favour of doing basic blues and dance grooves, just because it seemed to serve the drunken audience the most. It was the worst gig I have ever experienced in my 30 years of playing live and one that makes me share all of this with you now. I'm now at a point where I'm not sure what to do about it. I'm happy to accept that I may have had some part to play in all of this, but I feel I that I've been too naive and giving when it comes to my creative partnership with X. My plan is to have a band meeting and bring up these concerns (bloody tough, tho), but I'm fairly certain it will mean the end of the partnership and band. What do you think I should do?