looking for a little feedback on a situation that irritates me to no end. a little history: i am in a band (trio + vocals) that is currently working on covers (between 1-2 hours worth) it is a new project with a guitarist/friend of almost 25 years. i was kindly invited my him and the rest of the band after things didn't work out with a couple of the other members. i had went to a rehearsal of theirs a month earlier and when their bassist didn't show up, i leant a hand and some vocals and they were impressed. i was flattered and since i wasn't doing much, i agreed to join up. the strength of our band is the vocals; when we hit the three part harmonies just right, there are goosebumps. this keeps me coming back for more. after a couple months of rehearsing, i have realized that the big issue with the whole project is the drummer's timing. my timing is very good and he tends to rush a lot mid-song and starts songs at the wrong BPM etc. i am trying to work with him but more often than not, we cannot lock in and groove. i have never experienced this dynamic before; i have always worked with drummers who have their time down. it is bumming me out because it has been addressed many times and i suspect the drummer is getting frustrated with my complaining all the time. i am keeping it real by saying to the band that we cannot keep going the way we are. this drummer has only been playing for three years and takes weekly lessons and i know he wants to get better and tries hard at improving. i just don't know why his teacher isn't helping him with his tempo above all else. IMO the drummer is NOT a natural at the instrument. all of this wouldn't be a big issue if we were just knocking back a few beers once a week and jamming. but these guys are adamant about getting gigs lined up very soon; their attitude is that we need a show to whip us into shape. my attitude is that we are nowhere near ready to play publically because i know we would embarass ourselves at this point. you only get one shot at a first impression and i don't want to blow it it is surprising to me because out of the four members in the group, i have the least amount of gigging experience; i would think that i wouldn't have to point out the obvious. we are all older established weekend warrior types with decent income, decent time commitment and a certain level of maturity. i suggested to the drummer the other day that we should set up a click track that we could play to help him/ us with the timing issue. he makes excuses saying that most songs speed up/ slow down more than we think. that kind of response trouble me. we used a click last week for one tune we were struggling with and it worked wonders immediately. i am never too proud to work on the fundamentals; after all, it is the rhythym section that holds the whole thing together. i don't know if it is worth continuing on if we cannot fix the problem. as long as he can keep a beat i can work with that; i can do without the bells and whistles. any thoughts would be greatly appreciated; this is a lot of fun and could be very satisfying.