I ask this question here because with the exception of BassCliff, I've never met any of you in person, and this forum provides a modicum of anonymity. For reasons I won't dwell on, I'm seriously considering divorce from my spouse. It has absolutely nothing to do with another woman at all. I've just reached my near-breaking point and have decided that I may be better off without her than with her. She has stated before that she does not wish to go to counseling, however, I have thought about giving her an ultimatum along the lines of, she has until December 31st to select a marriage counselor of her choice, and if she doesn't, then after the new year I file for divorce. Is this reasonable or do I take another tack?