A little history: My sister (bass), our friend Dan (drums) and I (guitar) started this band (Christian rock band) in 2004. My sister and I were playing in bands together for 2 or 3 years before that. We've got material (I wrote it all) from far earlier than that. I've not been sans band for more than 6 months for the last 10 years. Although our drummer is different (last drummer joined in 2005, current drummer joined just a month or two ago), my sister and I have been pushing this band forward all along... or so I thought. Tonight, she blew off band practice claiming the need to "study." Of course, she didn't decide to tell me this until she was already 20 minutes late to practice. It occurs to me that I've been pushing the band by myself for months. We've been trying to get our new drummer up to speed, but she's been late to almost every rehearsal (except the one rehearsal where our drummer got stuck late at work - she now thinks HE'S the slacker). And, of course, every rehearsal comes with a slew of complaints, sighs, and eye rolls. Tonight might be the last straw. Our drummer had already set up his drums, I got my guitar gear set up, and by the time we got her text (she didn't even call), we were already jamming a little. Her text reads, "I'd rather be kicked out of the band than do badly on this test." BS. An adult schedules time appropriately, and knows earlier than 20 minutes AFTER rehearsal was scheduled to start that they can't be there. I'm so tired, guys. Training a new drummer has been exhausting enough, and I'm honestly tired of dragging a bassist behind me. Firing her and replacing the bassist/vocalist seems equally exhausting. I love being on stage, and I love being able to touch others with my music, but I'm seriously considering disbanding and calling it quits. I'm thinking about cutting back to only playing at church. What do you think?