another birthday just past so i'm goin through another mini crisis - and just had an experience to kinda drive it home. i auditioned for a pretty happening group last week that advertised they wanted someone btwn 20 & 30. I lied about my age, and when i met the lead singer I told her i lied. She laughed saying it was cool, she liked the way i looked. i told her i'd be happy to tell her my real age after i played with them. we meet and talk a couple of times. i play with them. we play 2 hours in the studio. we're talking about lots of things, getting other guitarists, she tells me she thought i was great, and i get the general feeling i'm in. we plan to get together with another guitarist during the week - i feel safe, i tell her my age. the response is, "holy sh#t" as that's usually the response I get, I honestly don't look my years, and she asks why i don't just come right out with it, i should be proud. I then asked if I were honest in our initial phone call if she'd have ever auditioned me and she admitted she wouldn't have. she left, 2 days later i got a call saying she's going with someone else. while there could have been lots of reasons she made this choice, i'm usually pretty keen and sensitive to my surroundings, and i'm 99% sure my age was the deciding factor. so? and i'm gonna get a little spirtual and ethical on ya now. I want to play in other groups aside from the nerve. do I lie about my age and accept it? i don't lie about anything. i believe if i'm meant to be somewhere i'll be there, if i have to lie about something then i'm not supposed to be there, and ultimately - if i lie it means i'm not trusting my God (the powers of the universe) and trying to create my own reality which i've learned never works for me. i'm not compfortable living a lie as well. i was never good at it. i think it's a drag that the numbers someone puts to themselves can hurt them and the best solution i have thus far is to just swear off telling anyone my age, ever. perhaps i should make that something i just don't do. anyone else's thoughts or experience with this???