Played last night with my band after a 6 month hiatus. During that time, both the drummer and one of the guitar players forgot the tunes. Covers, originals, everything. OTH, I have continued to practice and create during that time. Like I told the drummer later, "I don't knit." Also, we were auditioning a vocalist/guitarist. I had given him a list of the tunes we had played before. So on one level I was embarrassed because the vocalist was prepared (even brought his own vocal amp, adapted keyboard lines to guitar), I was prepared, but the guitar and drum weren't. I was also disappointed because I felt like we were wasting the vocalist's time. I also have issues with the guitarist because he doesn't know how to EQ (he turns his mids to 0, bass and treble to 7, fortunately he only uses a 40 watt 1X10). I tried to gently remind everyone of their parts, but am afraid I still came off like a nazi. The vocalist was great (he's come from singing in a national touring act) and the tunes that we managed to get together were good. These are the only musicians I know in the area and I find them all reasonably mature and good players on the whole (drummer also has pro experience). I really want to keep playing with these guys, but I feel like...something is lacking. What/how would you seasoned pro's deal with this situation? Am I just being a jerk? P.S. I think I'm a pretty reasonable guy. I didn't yell at anyone or insult them. I also turned my amp down when asked until they thought it was okay. The drummer has an excuse in that we're not his only band and the other band is gigging and paying.