Am I crazy?

I don't know if announcing that you're quitting the band on stage is a great idea. Unless you tell your band mates you're going to do it a few days before. Otherwise, if you're not happy in the band, get out.

 

That's pretty bad form. Regardless of what the other guys are, that type of thing will get you branded as a dick. It'll go on your permanent record, and the next band isn't going to be so inclined to hire someone who would pull that kind of B.S. It's also burning bridges. Never a good idea.

Better to tell them at the next rehearsal after the gig.

 

I'm with Munji on this.

No. Maybe self-centered, ignorant, classless and foolish, etc.. (You get the point) That's a move that evokes a response like, "What a pr1ck". No need to make it into a soap opera ending, just get out after the gig on a good note. But, if your goal is to stir up bad blood and karma your stunt will insure your success.

 

Here's another vote to say that letting your bandmates know on stage is a bad idea. I can appreciate the fact that you want to get out, and that might be a good time to tell the audience, but let them know in advance (if you are willing to accept not playing the gig as a possibility) or afterwards (probably not in the 'dressing room' - you're likely to all be too pumped up after a performance).

Remember, life isn't a blockbuster film about you - what would work well in celluloid may fall flat in reality!

Wulf

 

It's been said already, but think about how you want to leave. I'd bring the subject up at the start of your next rehearsal and announce you're leaving. Be prepared with a good answer to why you're leaving too. Just don't negotiate, if you've really made your mind up, and tried to correct what you feel is wrong (you have brought up your issues with music choice and your need to influence the band I hope, otherwise they won't know this is a problem) then just announce your're leaving as a fact and then discuss how to do this with minimum problems for the band. You perhaps have upcoming gigs so they need some time to bring in a new player, or to cancel the gigs. There may also be issues about how to handle any gear the band owns together. Think all this through so you are really well prepared.

There was no suitable poll choice, I sympathise with your wanting to leave, but I think you're going about it the wrong way.

 

Whered you get the idea to tell them ONSTAGE during a performance? That is rediculous.

Leave the band, sure... doing so onstage is sideways and would likely offend the whole band.

 

Great - I think that's a good decision. Play a great show(*) and then every success to you as you look for a more suitable opportunity.

Wulf

(*) cos if they've been really impressed by you, the other guys in the band might consider giving some of the material you want to do a serious shot... and you're also 'auditioning' for any other potential bandmates in the audience

 

Yup, what Wulf said.

 

As a postscript and food for thought....


What's to stop your next band treating you like this?

There's no one answer, just find your own and find it before you join another band. All personal and subjective opinion from someone whose been there a couple of times.

 

Must've been PMS.

 

YES YOUR CRAZY!...wait, lemme go read the post...saw the title and had to say that...brb...


Ok...I have read it and came to this conclusion: YOU ARE NOT CRAZY! THEY ARE! NO ONE TELLS THE DAMN BASSIST TO SHUT UP AND DOESNT LET HIM SPEAK! YOU SHOULD SLAP THEM RIGHT BEFORE LEAVE AND LET THEM THINK ABOUT WHAT ******** THEY ARE!

Thanks for reading...sorry if it seems a bit harsh but that's a bunch of craP! ~ Tyler


edit: ok..after reading some of the replies (sorry, im so outta order on this post....) I think you should just tell them AFTER the gig...but dont forget the slap

 

If you aren't happy, you should leave.