Am I crazy?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by BASSnSAX, Jul 22, 2003.

  1. Yes!

    3 vote(s)
  2. No, I sympathize with you.

    6 vote(s)
  3. What you need is some new gear...go and buy a nice big amp, a couple new basses, and some carrots.

    2 vote(s)
  1. As the title asks, Am I crazy?

    I am in a band that's been together for 1 1/2 years now and we won Battle of the Bands last year (the lower class) and this year we tied for 1st place in the (higher class).

    Trouble is, I don't get any say. And I'm not the kind of person to just wait to be told what to do like some petty pet. I won't put up with "Bassist, sit!!!".

    I've been wanting to play some Led Zeppelin, Iron Maiden, Rush, and even some Dream Theater, but the singer and the guitarist just want to play 80's Hair band crap*.

    So this Friday is going to be my last gig. I'm going to annouce that I'm quitting right before our last song, which is Mama I'm Coming Home by Ozzy.

    I've made up my mind, but I'm interest to hear what you all think. , mainly because there always seems to be a shortage of bands versus the deserving players.

    *If you like 80's Hair music, I'm sorry, I'm just voicing my opinion. If you like it, the ok. Personally, I can't ever connect to me, there's about as much emotional content as there is in a divorce.
  2. Nails


    Jun 4, 2000
    Austin, Tejas
    I don't know if announcing that you're quitting the band on stage is a great idea. Unless you tell your band mates you're going to do it a few days before. Otherwise, if you're not happy in the band, get out.
  3. Munjibunga

    Munjibunga Total Hyper-Elite Member Gold Supporting Member

    May 6, 2000
    San Diego (when not at Groom Lake)
    Independent Contractor to Bass San Diego
    That's pretty bad form. Regardless of what the other guys are, that type of thing will get you branded as a dick. It'll go on your permanent record, and the next band isn't going to be so inclined to hire someone who would pull that kind of B.S. It's also burning bridges. Never a good idea.

    Better to tell them at the next rehearsal after the gig.
  4. jive1

    jive1 Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member Commercial User

    Jan 16, 2003
    Owner/Retailer: Jive Sound
    I'm with Munji on this.

    No. Maybe self-centered, ignorant, classless and foolish, etc.. (You get the point) That's a move that evokes a response like, "What a pr1ck". No need to make it into a soap opera ending, just get out after the gig on a good note. But, if your goal is to stir up bad blood and karma your stunt will insure your success.
  5. wulf


    Apr 11, 2002
    Oxford, UK
    Here's another vote to say that letting your bandmates know on stage is a bad idea. I can appreciate the fact that you want to get out, and that might be a good time to tell the audience, but let them know in advance (if you are willing to accept not playing the gig as a possibility) or afterwards (probably not in the 'dressing room' - you're likely to all be too pumped up after a performance).

    Remember, life isn't a blockbuster film about you - what would work well in celluloid may fall flat in reality!

  6. FretNoMore

    FretNoMore * Cooking with GAS *

    Jan 25, 2002
    The frozen north
    It's been said already, but think about how you want to leave. I'd bring the subject up at the start of your next rehearsal and announce you're leaving. Be prepared with a good answer to why you're leaving too. Just don't negotiate, if you've really made your mind up, and tried to correct what you feel is wrong (you have brought up your issues with music choice and your need to influence the band I hope, otherwise they won't know this is a problem) then just announce your're leaving as a fact and then discuss how to do this with minimum problems for the band. You perhaps have upcoming gigs so they need some time to bring in a new player, or to cancel the gigs. There may also be issues about how to handle any gear the band owns together. Think all this through so you are really well prepared.

    There was no suitable poll choice, I sympathise with your wanting to leave, but I think you're going about it the wrong way.
  7. mans0n


    Jun 15, 2002
    Whered you get the idea to tell them ONSTAGE during a performance? That is rediculous.

    Leave the band, sure... doing so onstage is sideways and would likely offend the whole band.
  8. Ok, thanks everyone for the feedback...I think I'll wait till the rehearsal after the show.
  9. wulf


    Apr 11, 2002
    Oxford, UK
    Great - I think that's a good decision. Play a great show(*) and then every success to you as you look for a more suitable opportunity.


    (*) cos if they've been really impressed by you, the other guys in the band might consider giving some of the material you want to do a serious shot... and you're also 'auditioning' for any other potential bandmates in the audience
  10. Mike A

    Mike A Supporting Member

    Oct 3, 2002
    Yup, what Wulf said.
  11. CS


    Dec 11, 1999
    As a postscript and food for thought....

    What's to stop your next band treating you like this?

    There's no one answer, just find your own and find it before you join another band. All personal and subjective opinion from someone whose been there a couple of times.
  12. Yeah, I get what you're saying...The most frustrating part, is now we ARE playing The Wicker Man by Iron Maiden, which was my idea...I guess I'll stay with them...they want to record soon too. We're only recording to a mini-disk player, but I think we can definately put that onto CD. Gah.

    They also said that this will be our last gig until winter break. So that means some good time off, maybe thump it with another band at college...

    Yeah, but I'm sure I'll find the right one soon enough...
  13. Munjibunga

    Munjibunga Total Hyper-Elite Member Gold Supporting Member

    May 6, 2000
    San Diego (when not at Groom Lake)
    Independent Contractor to Bass San Diego
    Must've been PMS.
  14. Yeah, considering I'm a guy.:rolleyes:
  15. YES YOUR CRAZY!...wait, lemme go read the post...saw the title and had to say that...brb...


    Thanks for reading...sorry if it seems a bit harsh but that's a bunch of craP! ~ Tyler

    edit: ok..after reading some of the replies (sorry, im so outta order on this post....) I think you should just tell them AFTER the gig...but dont forget the slap :D
  16. Zon Bass

    Zon Bass

    Jan 20, 2002
    Dallas, TX
    If you aren't happy, you should leave.