I've been in a Christian prog rock band for about 3 years now but have only done 3 gigs since we've had trouble keeping band members. We play some pretty challenging stuff so many musicians who play with us either can't hang or want something that requires less work/commitment. We have had 3 members steadily for 3 years but need 5 to complete us. We finally have it all together and everyone seems to be excited about what's happening but I've seen this before and I'm not getting my hopes up just yet. We only practice once a week and while I loves these guys and consider them close friends, I'm just not getting my music fix playing once a week or every other week in this band alone. 2 weeks ago I get a call from a guy who heard from someone else that I was a good bassist. I've never heard of this guy or his band but was honored that he called me and was wanting to meet me. So I went to his house and met him, played some of his tunes, and he was astonished that I learned them so fast and played them well. He's had problems in the past with bassists that are slow learners and that have no natural sense of groove. A couple days later I went to his studio that he owns, a really cool one too with a lot of nice equipment, and jammed with the rest of the band. They loved me and thought that everything I was doing was perfect and really added to the music. I actually felt like a needed commodity instead of a disposable hired hand, not that I've ever been treated like that in any band that I've ever been in but I almost expected to feel that way at first. They practice 2-3 times per week and their music is easy and fun to groove to, something I'm not used to being in a prog rock band. The cons to being in this band is that it's not a Christian band and my personal convictions make it hard for me to do bar gigs, something that this band wants to do in the near future. Also, I'm the youngest guy in the band and these guys are playing stuff that sounds a lot like Tom Petty which is not really my cup of tea but hey, I get to play music. I also play in my church, which kind of frowns on playing in secular bands. Also, my wife is pregnant with our second child and I know that once he/she is born that I'm going to have to quit this band and I don't want to lead them on and then drop them. They really like the way I play and I feel like I'm doing some good to a band that needs someone like me. So here's the question, which way should I go with this? Should I A: play in both bands until my wife gives birth and then quit, giving them ample time to find a permanent bassist B: quit now and let them down now before they get too attached, C: help the band leader/studio owner with recording his cd's and try to get my foot in the door as a session player in his studio, or D: stay in both bands any way and do bar gigs? Like I said, I love playing music but I'd rather be playing in a different band but this is what's on the table right now so I'm going with it.