Another Band ending....

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by Itzayana, Jul 19, 2013.

  1. Itzayana


    Aug 15, 2012
    Oakland Ca
    Well here I am again auditioning for bands. Actually it is kind of fun and adventurous.
    After two year in the band, six months recording that resulted in a CD release and playing some live dates. The band is ending primarily because several of the players (who are really quite good by the way) do not believe that they deserve success.
    Sometimes I feel resentful when this happens and it has happened frequently over the years, but I always try to remember that there were really great moments and I always learn a thing or two along the way.
    Funny thing about music, whenever this happens it always feels like starting over and taking several steps back when in reality it is starting over, but from a new better place.
    Wish me luck, I need it.
  2. Nev375


    Nov 2, 2010
    They don't believe they deserve success.... really?
  3. Doodaddy


    Jan 11, 2005
    West Monroe, LA
    Yeah that's confusing to me as well. The music is supposed to be about passion and they're stopping because people like it? :confused:
  4. spz8


    Jan 19, 2009
    Glen Cove, NY
    They don't. Not with that kind of attitude moving forward.
  5. Good luck, and have fun auditioning. FWIW: many years ago, at one time I use to answer/audition every ad just to meet, network and jam with new musicians, it was fun and I learned a lot too. The point is - don’t let it get you down bro, and look at it as a good thing. :)
  6. Itzayana


    Aug 15, 2012
    Oakland Ca
    Really. It's not just musicians. It is one of those funny little human things. Lack of self-esteem is the number one cause of failure.
    I am not saying that everyone has an equal chance at success. What I am saying is that of those who truly possess the talent to succeed only a small percentage do and there in lays the difference.
    People who believe in themselves tend to succeed while those who don't believe in themselves will sabotage themselves into failure.
    Mostly they just simply give up too soon.
  7. Jason Hall

    Jason Hall

    Jun 21, 2012
    Fort Wayne, IN
    The more bands that come and pass, the more resilient you will become. It sucks but it gets easier each time. I remember the old days... sobbing like a gilted lover over my band falling apart. You just gotta get back out there and say screw it.
  8. Slough Feg Bass

    Slough Feg Bass Supporting Member

    Sep 28, 2007
    San Francisco
    exactly, so many opportunities on the horizon that you can be open to do!

    I sometimes wish I could join another band, but I am too busy with my regular bands, not enough time!
  9. FretNoMore

    FretNoMore * Cooking with GAS *

    Jan 25, 2002
    The frozen north
    Or could it be that after playing some live dates they realized that this is not what they want? I know several guys that are supremely talented but have no wish whatsoever to be serious about it.
  10. bluewine

    bluewine Inactive

    Sep 4, 2008
    How are these guys defining success?

  11. jmattbassplaya

    jmattbassplaya Supporting Member

    Jan 13, 2008
    I played with a guy who didn't think he deserved to be paid for playing any gig until he had "paid his dues." He also didn't think the band deserved to be paid unless they played at a level he deemed "good enough". Needless to say, he got dropped REALLY quick once he started bringing up these ideas at the end of gigs when we'd be talking to venue owners.
  12. FretNoMore

    FretNoMore * Cooking with GAS *

    Jan 25, 2002
    The frozen north
    I think that is simply a way of avoiding responsibility; if you play for free there is no pressure to deliver.