Anyone Deal with Asperger's Syndrome?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by randysmojo, Apr 28, 2012.


  1. Dude, applying the symptoms to yourself is not an indication you have aspergers. It's a cry for help. I would practically have to write an essay about my life's experiences, but I think my posting history says a lot about this.

    Long story short, when I sought after answers, I got a generic one like "your depressed". From a licensed psychologist no less.

    MY awkwardness didn't come from severe disabilities. It didn't come willfully. It sure as hell didn't come from unintelligent design. It was from going to school, being smartened up, having a few of life's kicks in the rear teaching me some life lessons, and then realizing that in the presence of stupid people? Your going to ****ing HATE life. Unfortunately, when one animal appears differently from a pack of others, it's viewed as sick. Then it's separated. But that sickness is not necessarily a downgrade.

    So, as the TB OT motto goes, "buck up and deal with life. Someone has it worse. Now back to work!"
     
  2. on the other hand, maybe this person is only "alone in a crowded room" because he's not surrounded by people sufficiently smart enough to be relatable to? Not everything is being "austistic", downgraded, or worth dirt because it's differentiated.

    Its generalizations like "alone in a crowded room" that encourage a diagnosis of aspergers or autistic or depressed or bipolar or whatever else you can conceive of. Maybe its just plain different
     
  3. My 6 yr old daughter is ASD, and we suspect our 3 yr old is as well. Brianna is very intelligent, and at 2 was saying words like "obnoxious" and "conscience" (we think she got them from watching Finding Nemo a lot.) Alyssa didn't start talking until recently, although she still can't communicate well.
    B was working on simple jigsaw puzzles very early, while A will just look at, or try to eat, them.
    B is a social misfit, and can't "get" jokes or read body language, while A fits in socially, and has no problem getting simple jokes.
    When we took A in for assesment, we talked to the specialist, and one thing that came up was being "normal". My response was, "everybody is different, and there's no such thing as "normal"". They couldn't argue with that.
    We're curently homeschooling B, because of her socialization issues, and the public school system is in shambles. ( I won't get into that now, that's a whole other can of worms I don't want to open.) We tried private school and they didn't have the resources to handle her issues. She had a "meltdown" in class after getting some candy, (she has a food colouring alergy, as well), and another occured when some other kids were playing with airplanes and making noises. We did try public school (pre-kindergarten) and although she had a helper, she was bored, as she was way ahead of the others in her class. We don't think she was teased there, but she kept wanting to go back to the private school, where she was challenged more. She is also on Biphentin, which helps her focus on what she is doing, a she has had periods of "blanking out". We had an EEG done, but it came back fine.
    B has problems with noise, but can sleep through an earthquake, while A loves to make as much noise as possible, but is a light sleeper. I think A is the reincarnation of Keith Moon, as she likes to get the wifes largest knitting needles and drums on anything. :D
    All in all, it's been interesting so far, and is an adventure, for sure.
     
  4. buzzbass

    buzzbass

    Apr 23, 2003
    NJ
    I've always been a bit "off" myself. When I turned 50 last year, I started doing some research and self evaluation. I haven't seen a professional, but all of the info i've seen seems to indicate that I'm an "aspie" as they're called. This revelation proved to be somewhat comforting to me, as maybe I'm not the social a-hole that I'd always been hating on myself for being.
     
  5. buzzbass

    buzzbass

    Apr 23, 2003
    NJ

    you've pretty much just described my entire existance. been that way as long as I can remember.
     
  6. randysmojo

    randysmojo

    Jan 14, 2008
    Temple, TX
    I don't even understand what you are trying to say unless you mean I am trying to claim I have the symptoms just to have it, but to fix everyone's wagon and then I will more than likely never post on this thread again, I was positively diagnosed High Functioning Asperger's Syndrome. I saw myself in the descriptions of what people deal with or act like that have Asperger's. I know myself, my mannerisms, and how I have acted and reacted to things through out my life. So I was correct in thinking I may have found what has been steering me in my life. There are positive aspects to this, and my ability to learn music easily is one of them. There are things that have ended up negatively in my life because of it, but now I am aware of why I do things, say things, and think like I do so I can look into coping skills to keep from going down the same repetitive roads again. I hope anyone else that has Asperger's here understands that there are strengths involved in it as well as weaknesses, and those strengths can help you to do extraordinary things. Piece out!!!!!
     
  7. Best of luck with the next steps in your journey. Hope this is a turning point for you.
     
  8. I let this float but decided I should comment.

    First, I didn't name the documentary. Sorry if the name is disturbing. Having seen the documentary, the name makes sense to me.

    Second, ASD is what it is, good or bad. In some contexts some degree of ASD allows people to achieve more, nothing wrong with that imo. I posted earlier that I work in IT and in some roles in my industry ASD people thrive. That was the truth.
     
  9. THand

    THand

    Jun 9, 2008
    I have it, along with some OCD.
    I usually view it as an asset and wouldn't want to be "normal" because it seems to be what makes me "me".
    Having said that, the thing I would change is the repeating pattern in my life of caring about people, and then somehow hurting them unintentionally and not even understanding what I did wrong. Also I wouldn't mind not walking up on people who I thought were friends and overhearing them making some derogatory comment, which instantly makes me feel like I am back in kindergarten being the last one picked for the kickball team again. I'm 49 now, BTW. I have realized most of my life, when I was able to do ok socially, I was imitating characters I had seen in movies and on TV.
     
  10. randysmojo

    randysmojo

    Jan 14, 2008
    Temple, TX
    That's very interesting what you said about imitating characters on TV, because I find that when I do ok socially I usually mimic behaviors of others as well, be it TV or someone I know. It has actually helped me tremendously. I know the last for kick ball feeling too. The band I'm in seems to really like me, but I still get a feeling like they might fire me after every show even of I don't make mistakes.
     
  11. MX21

    MX21

    Sep 28, 2007
    Springdale, AR
    The "last one being picked / being accepted" thing seems to be a common factor. I have to work to overcome that myself, as does my daughter. She had her first day as a Senior in high school and came back all down because some of her friends didn't sit with her. She needs periodic reinforcement that her friends are really her friends. I have to remind her (and myself) that friends are not exclusive - they will occasionally do something with someone else.
     
  12. ArtGuy9516

    ArtGuy9516

    Apr 10, 2012
    Richmond, VA
    It sounds like receiving this diagnosis has been helpful in that your self-observations have been validated. You also appear to recognize how Asperger's has impacted your life and that you desire to learn how to manage some of its symptoms so that you can minimize the extent that it negatively impacts your job and relationships. I think that's a great place to be emotionally--some "healthy" adults never get to this point!
     
  13. randysmojo

    randysmojo

    Jan 14, 2008
    Temple, TX
    Thank you! It has opened my eyes in ways that are very helpful. Also what MX21 has said has been helpful in opening my eyes to some of my actions and feelings and understanding them so I can better handle them when they happen!
     
  14. Funky Ghost

    Funky Ghost Translucently Groovy

    I remember this thread :)
    It was a great read again (yeah I'm geeky like that...)

    I found the bit about imitating characters quit interesting as one of my ex students, Chelsea, was very much the same way. One of the more interesting things we did at the school was to show our students film of themselves when they were exhibiting behaviors ( negative mostly, but also inappropriate laughter (( huge mood swings )) followed by out and out bawling) Watching them watch themselves was something of a revelation. It became a useful tool in working with some of the more social folks. More of a fine tuner, really. But, sadly it didn't last long. I've kept up with a few of my students after I left the school and Chelsea, though seriously limited by her social skills, has her own place now. Her ILS worker, Pearl, is beyond amazing and is a huge reason she is not in a group home environment.

    Randy I'm glad you seem to be getting answers to your self discovery.
     
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