I haven't been in hundred of bands, but I've been in several. It seems that I'm the only one listening to the drummer. I'm the only one getting used to his tendencies. I pick up on his favorite rolls or his fills. It seems that the others only pay attention to the drums on the intros and endings. If the drummer changes his fills the band, damn near quits playing even though the count didn't change. The "one" is where it's always at, but it throws them off. So I know the hear the drums. But do they "feel" the drums! I don't know maybe its just me.