Apologies in advance for the long post, but after my band's latest show I've become so frustrated that I'm thinking of retiring from music. After 10 years of playing live with the same band, I've reached a dilemma. I love the people I play with, which is why I've been with them so long, but I'm growing increasingly dissatisfied with the quality of our music. At this point, I'm beginning to wonder whether the band or the music is more important. Here's some background. I started playing with this band when I was 17 and have never so much as sat in with another band. I've played practically every instrument at one point or another, but I prefer bass. All of the other members have been much older and more skilled than me (typically 40s-50s in age), including my dear old dad. Players have come and gone over the years, but right now we have a total of 5 guys who all enjoy each others' company and work well together. We've never lacked for work and average 5-6 shows per month, which is the most any of us want to play. The only problem is that the quality of the music is now worse than it's ever been. Some of the issues are based on skill. For many years I was "the kid" with potential, even though I was the weakest link for a while, but I could hold my own with these much more experienced players. This is the first time in my musical career, however, that I feel that I could play every instrument better than the person playing them in the band, the only exception being that I can't play face-melting arpeggio solos like our guitar player can (though his rhythm/riff playing is subpar). We also only practice maybe once or twice a year, as we all have demanding day jobs and play shows so often that we have neither the time nor motivation to get together and practice. This leads to lots of major mistakes during shows, some of which I have to own up to, which are embarrassing and demoralizing. Any videos that are taken at shows only point out our mistakes. It's gotten to the point where I'm trying to hide the fact that I play in a band from people at work, for fear they'll come see how awful we are. This has led me to a sort of crossroads. I do enjoy playing with these guys, but I no longer enjoy the music, if that makes sense. I can't seem to find the motivation to even pick my bass up and practice on my own during the week. I have a list of new songs I've been trying to get them to learn, but they can never find the time to work up their parts, so we play the same songs every show. Concerning finding another band, I've never played with another band or even sat in with someone. Nobody has ever approached me with the opportunity, which leads me to believe that I'm not a valued player in the area and that I would have a hard time finding a higher-quality band to play with. Thus, I feel trapped in my current situation. I know any musical ship for me has sailed long ago, but I'd still like to have some quality in the music I play. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I try to make this band better, or try to find another higher-quality band, or is this the best I can do? TL;DR: My band has become mediocre in quality, but I love playing with them. Should I try to make it better or leave?