Baby Shaming is a thing

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by mellowinman, Feb 9, 2018.

  1. Their babies are too big

    1 vote(s)
  2. Their babies are too small

    0 vote(s)
  3. Their babies are just right, but have little baby attitudes

    8 vote(s)
  4. Their babies have already tried the stewed carrots

    12 vote(s)
  1. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    Actually more than one thing, but this is the one I'm talking about:

    "Your baby is too small. What are you feeding it? I think it's undernourished. My baby was twice the size at that age."

    I'm not kidding. People are freaking out young, first-time mothers and telling them they're bad mothers because their babies are the wrong size. Too small, and I imagine, too big. Do you think the mother of a newborn can handle that?

    What has become wrong with us that we would do something like this?
  2. knumbskull


    Jul 28, 2007
    maybe they should be more worried about their own enormous baby?

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  3. devo_stevo


    Aug 2, 2006
    Northern Utah
    Builder: Brumbaugh Guitarworks
    I'm 5'-6" tall and my wife is 4'-11" tall. We have 5 kids. All of them were tiny babies. We heard all about how much bigger everyone else's kids were. It bugged us with the first 2. After that, we knew the score and it didn't matter what other people said.

    I don't care how small your kids are. If they are active and alert to the world around them, they're doing alright.
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  4. charlie monroe

    charlie monroe Gold Supporting Member

    Feb 14, 2011
    Buffalo, NY
    "Has become"?

    Where have you been? People have been insensitive, callous and even outright cruel since Adam dated Eve.

    Important to note that in this scenario the majority of these comments are likely born of genuine concern.
  5. Chicory Blue

    Chicory Blue Secretly Queen of the Moon Supporting Member

    We live in an age where it’s incredibly easy to forget we’re still people talking to people when we post things online, and subsequently lose our sense of shame and courtesy all at once while we take easy pot shots at strangers. At the same time, folks naturally want to jump to the defense of the defenseless, and barring incredibly unusual circumstances babies are generally pretty defenseless, which makes it very hard to see the line between trying to solve a real problem and just kind of being a dick.

    I mean, don’t get me wrong, babies are weird gross people-larvae who can’t even hold a meaningful conversation, and people should definitely be ashamed of them.

    Like, ew.

  6. Funky Ghost

    Funky Ghost Translucently Groovy

    As in pretty much any deviant behavior, the numbers of people who participate in said behavior do not warrant an "Us". It's a "them" thing. What is wrong with "them". As to that? Who can say?

    They don't think like the rest of us clearly.
  7. Gorn


    Dec 15, 2011
    Queens, NY
  8. buldog5151bass

    buldog5151bass Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.

    Oct 22, 2003
    My normal reaction when people say something stupid or unintelligible - just nod, smile, and walk away.
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  10. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    I just became aware of it. Concern is an odd thing. I happen to work with about 10 young ladies who have become first-time mothers recently, and all are dear friends of mine, so I'm a lot more aware of mother stuff. Remember, I have no kids, so what you experienced when you were in your 20s, I never saw before. I've become very aware of the whole separation anxiety deal, and other such issues, but this one kind of freaked me out.

    "What's wrong with your baby?" is something a mother should never hear!
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  11. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    Yeah, but I'm not talking about online! I'm talking about actual conversations! Looking right at a woman and saying, "what's wrong with your baby?"
  12. MonetBass

    MonetBass ♪ Just listen ♫ Supporting Member

    Sep 15, 2006
    Tulsa, OK
    Our pediatrician actually told us once that our son was too thin. The truth is he takes after me and has almost no body fat, despite the fact that he ate a lot. Guess what, doc? Some kids are just built that way. We have since changed to a different doctor.
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  13. Son of Wobble

    Son of Wobble

    Mar 8, 2010
    Mellowinman is now a... baby advocate?

  14. Son of Wobble

    Son of Wobble

    Mar 8, 2010
    Mr. Mellowinman Goes To Washington

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  15. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    I just want to say that if I am elected, I will try to do many things for many people, and make everybody happy, but my hands will be tied by lobbyists, special interest groups, and; and; and....

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  16. Son of Wobble

    Son of Wobble

    Mar 8, 2010


  17. Son of Wobble

    Son of Wobble

    Mar 8, 2010
  18. BassPilot

    BassPilot Supporting Member

    Oct 14, 2016
    I often wonder what the hell is wrong with people that would do things like this.
    Funny thing about political correctness, cordiality/politeness/consideration; Many people don't find value in these qualities...until they've been slighted...sad.
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  19. Son of Wobble

    Son of Wobble

    Mar 8, 2010
    Hey, pal, there ARE no liberal babies! Babies are about as me-first as you can get!
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  20. Oddly


    Jan 17, 2014
    Dublin, Ireland.
    This sort of interference in how people raise their children is nothing new. Part of it is born out of genuine concern but it's mostly because people can't jyst mind their own damn business.
    @mellowinman all you can do for your co-workers is advise them that unless the comments are coming from a paediatric specialist they should be ignored.
    Feel free to slap the culprits about a bit yourself tho.
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