Sorry I’m advance, as this will probably be kinda lengthy. About a month ago I auditioned for a band that an acquaintance told me was looking for a bassist. He’s a professional guitarist and vouched for this group, so figured it’s worth looking into. At the time I was starved for an outlet to play bass, but this is the third band I’m in currently, as an old band I was in started back up shortly after that conversation. The new band is: keys, guitar, vox, drums, bass, and a sax player (who plays in several bands and couldn’t make the first audition/practice). The audition went very well, the people seem cool, and the music is fun. I was then added to the group chat without any sort of conversation about if I wanted to join the band. So I guess I’m just in? About a month goes by without another practice because the singer got COVID, so he had to isolate for a few weeks (now he’s past it and we’re all fully vaccinated so it’s not a concern). Also I find out during this break period that there’s a 2 hour gig in mid June. Second rehearsal everyone is there, playing goes well, but the conversation stood out to me. People were talking about what they do for work, and the sax player mentioned how he plays music full time to pay the bills, no day job. The rest of the band fawns over how cool that is, and gets to talking about how we need to rehearse like crazy to get the material tight so we can all quit our day jobs and do this professionally. The singer at one point flat out asked me how much they’d have to pay to get me to quit my job to go on tour, should that opportunity arise. I’ve got a steady, well paying job, a wife, a mortgage, etc., so all I could say was “we’ll cross that bridge if we come to it.” While this is probably the best group of musicians I’ve played with in a long time, very studious, and rehearsals are run productively, I find myself worrying that they may be a bit naive or underestimating how difficult it is to make a living with music, and that this may not be a good fit if they really want to do this professionally. I don’t get too excited by the idea of being a professional musician, as it seems horribly unstable and lots of late nights and time away from home, but maybe I could try it for a while. What level of income are they considering sufficient to quit their jobs? At 30, I’m the old guy in this group by 2-3 years, so maybe I’m just jaded and grumpy? There keeps being messages in the group chat talking about the sacrifices everyone needs to be willing to make to make rehearsals and gigs if “we want to do this for a living”...and I don’t think I do. What makes it harder is how they’ve mentioned several times how they’re very grateful that I showed up when I did because they need a bassist and have had a lot of trouble finding one who can show up prepared and keep up musically. So if I quit, I’d be really leaving them up a creek without a paddle. I’m thinking, no matter what, I’ll stick around to play the gig that’s booked. but if I’m going to leave I’d like to let them know as soon as possible. I’m on the fence here. On one hand these are great players, and fun music, and maybe they could make it on the small festival circuit and it would be quite the experience to be a part of it for a time. On the other hand, there’s the (more frequent IME) possibility that it will go nowhere and everyone is chasing that pipe dream, leaving me exhausted and unhappy. Any pros out there have some wisdom or advice? Honest takes on what it’s like being in a professional working band? TLDR: I like the band, but worry our expectations for the band are misaligned. They seem to want to do it professionally, and I’ve got a day job that pays way better than music ever likely will. I don’t want to quit, but don’t want to string them along if it’s not going to shake out in the long run.