After reading thru alot of these posts, recalled a situation I was in years ago in NYC: I had auditioned for and joined an original group w/ a female vocalist who seemed to be the driving force along with... Yep you guessed it...her Lead guitarist boyfriend. Rest of band was rhythm guitar, sax, keys, drums, Myself on my beloved Wal fretless one of the reasons won the audition "that sound !" they said. For the time period they actually had some very good songs with good hooks and very hip aka good airwaves tracks. Everything was written in charts -which I could barely get thru as am more of a by-ear player. But had no fear of them just something else to learn how to do. We had a showcase in NYC in 10 days. A bit tight for me to learn 7 songs let alone rehearse them. Pressure sure but i gave it my best. The club was in the Village. A popular place and it was a friday Showcase night, rare in the city for that. Pretty excited that record company reps would be there. We loaded in waited for our set time and then had at it. We start, the first number not so bad then launch into the 2nd and after ad-libing a few lines the singer spins around and throws her tambourine down thrust her arms up shouts something then storms off the stage her Guitarist boyfriend unplugs, jets after her. HOLY **** ! Me, sax player and drummer kept playing other band members completely stunned comped right along and got back into the song's groove. Thinking 'Wow what a save !' All was not lost...Yet. We figured we'd have a minute when we ended to sort this out. Showcasing is like riding a Swiss train.Your start stop time is set, no breaks, no 'let's try that one again'. There are no second chances. If the train derails your done. Quickly into a dressing room we tried to sort it out. She was ranting... more like yelling... "it's not right. your playing this way, he's playing that way, oh my god! " At that point we were doomed. One look at my buddy, a guitarist /songwriter who had come along for moral support now in wide eyed shock. I said 'We're getting outta here right now' Packed up said bye to the Sax player who was a good guy Me and my buddy took off out the back door hoping no one would see me and remember "ohh the bass player from that band that imploded "etc etc Maybe I should have stayed and sorted out what her problems were but being embarrassed onstage like that basically killed any thought of being in this band -if it even stayed together. Moral of the story: Be careful who you audition for and accept a position with. Get to know their personalities, quirks. This band was on a fast track but they never caught their breath and tried to grasp too soon the glory deal. When auditioning if the band's goals, type of music sounded good or if we were auditioning for players we would always first try to meet in a casual bar setting for a few brews and just chat to see if we were all on the same page etc. That technique worked well almost every time. One can usually get a feel for a person after some conversation. Anyhow how a great evening / day.And Good Luck out there.