I'm facing a bit of a dilemia with the management of my band at the moment. I convinced my best friend (drummer) to pick up his sticks and form a band with me about 9 months ago. Since then I've recruited 2 guitarists and a singer. The singer took a LONG time to recruit as this area is very clicky and if people don't know your sound, they won't even try out. It's worth mentioning that this is my first band. I'm doing all the management (organising gigs, buying equipment (PA, recording stuff etc), recruiting members, advertising, raising awareness etc) and we haven't yet played a gig! We've got our first one booked for May 11th. We took on the first two guitarists that auditioned for us - one of them is absolutely awesome (nice guy, contributes to the band musically and enthusiastically, and to top it off he can play really well), but the other guitarist is creating headaches (let's call him Phill toi make it easier for me to make out)... Phill's not a bad player really - he can hold a tune, but he has a style that doesn't match ours. He's into his indie rock music - basically a Oasis / Strokes / Libertines fan, and we're into our heavier rock (RATM, RHCP, Audioslave, Guns n' Roses, Led Zeppelin, Incubus etc)... he comes up with some great riffs and adds some good things over the top of the rest of the stuff we come up with, but he has some major flaws: He's complacent - we've been practicing like hell recently for this first gig and we've been trying to get our set together, bring the singer on and play like we're playing live whilst in the practice room. He's always messing up (no-ones perfect), but when he does (or if someone else does) he stops and misses a few bars. He's also rarely ready for the next song in the set (has to set his effects up, he's in the middle of lighting up a cigarette, texting on his phone or scratching his genitles ;P). He takes absolutely AGES to get some strangely timed chord changes. Whilst it takes me or the other guitarist a few bars to get any odd meters / changes, it takes Phill a few practices (5 hour sessions), lots of stops and starts and lots of 1 to 1 "coaching" (basically one of us showing him how to play it). Then when we go back into the song, he plays it wrong again! And the worst thing is that he doesn't notice when he makes the mistakes! He just can NOT listen to the other musicians in the band (unless they make a catastrophic error). He manages to stay in time (well, recently anyway) but he can sometimes go on and on playing the wrong riff over a transition from verse to chorus etc. Simple example - I wrote a song that requires the guitarists to play heavy and sustained power chords on the chorus (E, D#, B, A, G, E, E). Phill just can't get his head around it... he knows where the notes are (I had to teach him a power chord + octave the other day :|), but he plunks around, strumming the notes until we go to the next note, which he regularly gets wrong. He can't take any critique without going in a mood. The only way I can tell him any of the above without him going on one is by joking around and being aggressive (not in a bad way... I'm a very touchy feely person and it's my nature to be boystrous, but people know it's just me... and I only do it with people who can deal with it!)... then he doesn't take it in because he thinks I'm just joking! I've tried sitting him down and talking to him... he seems to take it in, but then seems to disregard everything you've said anyway. Last night, the other guitarist asked us all "Which song are you least confident with" and everyone listed 1 or 2 songs that they weren't quite comfortable with - apart from Phill, who said "none of them". He makes more mistakes than all of us put together. "Silence is golden" - as most of you will be aware, in most music putting in a "break" gives your tune that hook. He pretty much ALWAYS strums muted chords over any breaks. He almost left a few months ago for basically all of the above - I told him we didn't want him to go because we like him, but he needs to think about how much he's in to the kind of music we're doing. It's just infuriating... am I being harsh? In 9 months he's hardly made any progress with us... whereas the drummer, the other guitarist and I have all made considerable progress as musicians as well as with each other. Even the singer (who's only been with us for about 2 months and hasn't ever been a lead singer in a band before) has made progress. I've spoken to Phill about all of the above points... I've tried many different approaches and so has the drummer and other guitarist (at practices). I think he feels victimised and can't take it... he usually leaves practice early if we say something he doesn't like. My dilemia is this - I've spoken to the drummer on many occasions (we're best friends, we're around each other a lot) and he's too much of a nice guy to admit the above as brutally as I do, but he does in a round about way - he doesn't play guitar or know much about music, so as long as he's in time he's generally alright with all of us I texted the other guitarist this morning about it all, and he agrees with me... but Phill is generally a nice guy (he's not a bad person, regardless of the light I've shone him in), he's put the last 9 months of his life into the band, he's all for getting gigs, he's enthusiastic about HIS music (but not generally about much of our stuff) and we all generally like him. Also, we've got a gig in 2 weeks and I do NOT want to cancel it! What should I do? Sorry for the HUGE post, but I wanted to try to make the situation as clear as possible!