Well I'm getting a little frustrated in the band Im in. But first let me explain why I'm even in this band. 7 years ago I quit playing completely. Then I met the guitarist thats in the band I'm in now. He was down to earth and he explained that the rest of the band was the same. So it got me thinking about jamming again etc. So I dropped some large cash($4500) for my rig and a couple basses. We commenced to jam and it was great no attitude, professional and we're great friends......but we cant keep a singer. Actually they never work out, we went through 7, tried out 15, one was great but he moved due to a job. Well we finally found a guy, seemed good, but didnt know a thing about him. Something always seemed sketchy, he was really secretive etc, never been to his house etc. Well yesterday he didnt show up for practice, we call and his Mom says he was called out for the reserves ASAP. We never even knew he was a reservist, plus it seems sketchy that they(U.S. Reserves) wouldnt give any notice. Anyway. I'm just getting burnt on trying people out and finding out they are flakes, or unable to pull the gig off. Wasting time etc. I love my bro's in the band, we're best friends, but I can tell we're all getting burnt out and we're tired of being dissapointed. So I thought that maybe I should look for a side gig. To expand my playing, and feel like Im being constructive. But I worry that they will feel threatened by this and give up completely. I thought about "wood shedding", but that just isnt me. I like the comradery and the oulet of getting out of the house that being in the band it gives me. I've thought about lessons, since I've never had any formal ones. Or I thought about looking for a band with a different direction. Maybe originals etc. What do you think?? Im pretty lost on this one.