My old band is on the verge of getting back together. Myself, the singer, and the rhythm guitarist are all very much into it, and realize our lives just aren't the same without it. The lead guitarist is in, but he's one of those guys who is just as happy playing by himself on garage band as he is playing with us. The difference between now and then is that all of us realize that we're now in our early 30s, and that we're never going to be mega rock stars. But that doesn't mean we can't still enjoy writing songs and performing live together. It's really nice to all be on that same page, and I think it'll lead to less ego problems and it can be more about the music. The problem is our drummer (imagine that!) He was always the least committed of all of us. He would miss or cancel practices, bring his girlfriend to practices, and sometimes disappear for weeks on end. And nothing has changed. He, like the rest of us, has a full time job, a wife, and other adult responsibilities. If he literally doesn't have the time or wish to do it anymore, I can respect that and have no ill will towards him. He was pretty much the reason we broke up. But it's been since Thanksgiving Eve 2009, and times heals. I think he and our singer are ready to be in the same room again! But the idea of finding a replacement drummer has come up before. Both guitarists won't hear of it. They're better friends with the drummer than the singer and I are. They don't want to play with anyone else. They make excuses for him, and seem to accept that this is just the way it is. There was actually one show (Thanksgiving Eve 2007, actually... same bar) where our drummer was just not returning calls, and it became obvious he wasn't doing that gig. I had a drummer friend who I called up the day before the gig, and just asked him to bring his drumset and to learn a list of covers and we'll just play without any prior rehearsal and see what happens. We played the show, did about 20 covers, and even threw out a few originals that he had NEVER heard before. It was a tad rusty, but I think if you were just an average pedestrian, you'd never have known. I know this guy is currently available, and would like to bring him in. He's reliable, and has a wife and kid like the rest of us, and just wants a hobby. I don't know how to go about doing this, cause I feel like if the other guys would just give someone else a chance, they'd be amazed at what it's like to have a drummer who actually wants to play. Anybody else ever dealt with something like this?