Well, ya'll may have noticed I've been quiet all summer (well, that is if you pay attention to me at all. ), and I'm sorry to say that it's not because I've been so bogged down with gigs I can't see straight. Nope, I've been spending the past 2 1/2 months getting stalked. And not the good "rock star" kinda stalking. More like the baaaaaad "rock star" kinda stalking. I've been stressed beyond belief. Strange and often insulting messages left on my driveway and walkway to my house, phone calls at all hours, and being hounded online almost all night (hence why I ain't been around). I thought ignoring it would make it go away (and sometimes it does) but in my case it has'nt. It's only gotten worse. Hell, I'm being IMed from four different SNs belonging to the same person as we speak. I had to turn on the indication "ping" just to hear myself think. Up untill this started I thought stalking was only something that happened to celeberties and spurned lovers. It's not, and I'm finding out the hard way. And it's easy to get down on myself, think that its my fault. I know it's not, but you start feeling like that anyway. Especially me, who has a big emotional problem not being liked. Anyways, other then venting I wanted to share a little bit of what I've learned, since this tends to happen more to younger people (late teens, early-to-mid twenties) and I know we have alot of youngun's on here. 1.If you think your being stalked, GO TO THE POLICE! Even if to just give them the basic info. Get a relationship started so that if it continues you have something to go off of. Cops, in general, don't like going out of the way to solve "small" crimes so expect to do alot of the leg work yourself (Don't let that deture you. They'll help you any way they can, they want to help, but often in most towns the police are WAY overworked). 2. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! This includes printing out E-mails and instant messages, keeping a log of when you see strange people outside your house, and recording and transcripting any phone conversations you may have with the person stalking you. 3. BE PREPARED! In order to take control back of your life you have to make steps to stop whats going on. And one of them is to always be prepared for when and if the stalker decides to disturb you. In general, I like to keep it light so I stick with a new pen, a small notebook that fits in your back pocket, a cell phone (for calling 991 or a police call number if necessary) and a small, disposable camera. Try to get everything you can (pictures of cars, liscence plate numbers, the people themselves), log everything that happens, and by no means carry a weapon. BIG MISTAKE. A weapon, unless your trained to use it, can be taken and used on you very easily. Having the phone company put a trap on your phone is also good, as is getting a small tape recorder with a suction-cup microphone for recording conversations and voice messages. 4. TALK ABOUT IT! You'd be suprised how many people have gone through it. And everyone I've met who has had it happen to them (and many that have'nt, suprisingly) have been more then happy to help me work through this. 5...and most importently...IT'S NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF! ...sorry for the long post, but I had alot of guts to spill. Thanks for listening.