I work on the docks. I am amazed at the number of grown men that I have seen break down in tears over the past few years. I've seen a Longshoreman cry because he violated a rule and was fired (fired for the day - not a career ending thing) I've seen several truck drivers cry when we have refused them service as punishment for safety violations. These situations always strike me as odd. I always feel offended when a man breaks down in tears, because I feel like he is trying to "play me" for sympathy. Like he "turns on the waterworks" in an attempt to manipulate me by making me feel sorry for him. Recently in one of these situations, I caught myself saying something that I later regretted as I realized it was out of line. Before I could engage my brain I told a man to "stop crying like a woman or a child, and act like a man". I realized later that was a bit harsh and offensive. That made me think about why it is that I think like this, and I'm pretty sure it's because it's how I was raised. Men don't cry. I'll bite a whole in my lip to distract myself and prevent myself from crying over emotions. I realized that the man who broke down crying happened to have been an immigrant and likely was raised in a very different culture. My concept of "men don't cry" may have been completely foreign to him. Last night I was watching TV with my two kids. It was one of these horrible FOX shows where two completely dysfunctional families trade moms in an attempt to learn something. Well at one point during this program the father of one of these families became emotional and began to cry. My eight year old boy immediately commented "this guy is a baby". A few scenes later, there was another emotional scene and the man on TV was crying again and my eight year old commented again "jeez, this guy is SUCH a baby. Why is he crying?" At that point, I realized that I have passed this on to my son. He is not very tolerant of men who cry. As I though about it, he's a boy who falls down and gets hurt and usually doesn't cry. If he starts to cry, he fights it back and if he cries you know he is really hurt. Basically a little tough guy. Have I somehow given my son a bad message? Will this cause him problems in the future? I don't intend to ever say anything like what I had said ever again to a man who has broken down and cried, but I'm sure I'll still think it. Does this all make ME a bad person. What do you all say? Is it okay for a man to cry? If so when? Only if his wife or dog has died, or is it okay to cry about getting fired? Do most people out there think that men shouldn't cry, or are we living in an era where it's okay for men to cry? Sorry for the long post. I've been giving this a lot of thought and wanted to conduct a Major Metal type opinion poll.