annnnd..here we go again. If only people had the self awareness to realize how tacky and awkward this is. Friday nights gig had a female guest singer sit in...she apparently messaged the B/L about sitting in and singing some Janis Joplin tune. The two weren't connected before this and the B/L being a big hearted person said yes. Apparently the chicks boyfriend plays bass, and she basically hounded me about letting the guy sit in on a tune to the point where I was getting pretty irritated about it. I Didn't know her or the boyfriend and she was pretty pushy about the whole thing claiming he knew all the tunes we were playing, etc..etc... Generally I am not a fan of sit-ins....they interrupt the flow of the music, and if they involve someone sitting in on bass interrupt the energy I built up playing previous tunes. There is also the fact that I basically play one gig a month at best these days, so I am not at all interested in giving up playing time. If you come to our gigs, and I get to know you, and you are cool and chill and I like you enough and know you are a competent player, I might be inclined to invite you to sit-in on a tune. If you approach me in an aggressive, opportunistic manner, you will never ever be playing through my gear at anytime in the future. For the record I don't do sit-ins either even if I am invited up to play. I pretty much consider them pointless. You get up to play one tune, on someone else's gear you aren't familiar with and then by the time you start getting comfortable with their instrument, the song is over. To me that just isn't worth the disruption it causes to the other musicians on stage and to the overall performance.