I'm 1 year into working with a female-fronted, blues band that has a bit of a local following, some VERY good players, and decent frequency of gigs. At first I got along ok with the BL. It became clear soon enough that she is a raging narcissist, a terrible communicator, and a (mostly) functional alcoholic who can be fun, until you call her on any of her BS. It would take volumes to discuss individual problems here, (there are a few gems that you might like though) but I have given up trying to discuss anything that is remotely critical. Otherwise she gets argumentative and shouts down any discourse. I get along ok with the rest of the band, like the music, the $, and the venues where we play. I can tolerate the BL in small doses, lately she is icy AF toward me and the vibe is not cool. She has had drummer + bass player turnover in the last 2 years including the drummer who recommended me. The plus/minus tipping point is very close I fear. I'd love your thoughts: do you have to like your BL?