I've been playing bass for over 25 years,stopped playing for a few when I had kids, but now I've been playing steady for about 6 years. My skill level is not a problem,I can play at least a bit better than most bass players in the local bands in my area. I usually get asked back after most auditions. I've been in 5 different bands recently & all of them have either split up because of one member being uncommited, late notice cancellations for rehearsals/ gigs, etc. or personal,family or work problems. How do I find the steady gig with commited players who also want the same thing? I've run ads on craigslist but there seems to be more flakes than real musicians!
Eh, happens sometimes. I'm in a similar situation. I'm a good musician, but can't quit my job and those guys happen to be the only ones doing stuff at the moment. Other than that, a pretty strong drummer shortage has pretty much sidelined me for the time being.
+1000 I got the kids in the divorce and now they're out of the house... Things have changed a lot... I've always called the "flakes n nuts" "The Granola Factor", which is very high in L.A. It's a new world with the internet and all... I say..... Have Faith and keep on listening as much as you play!!!
Finding the right bunch of people with similar goals, expectations and work ethic isn't always easy. Especially if you're doing this as a fun or weekend warrior band change happens. Day gigs change, family responsibilities, relationships, etc. All you can do is keep plugging along until you find that group that's a good fit. As far as Craigslist etc. learning to read between the lines is helpful, but even then your going to find more flakes then gems, you just have to keep plugging along.
I think the issue is that you're joining rather than creating. When you build something from the ground up then you have the luxury of trusting your instincts and being able to do with it what you want.