...I'm in this "Band of Christians" that was going along pretty good until our guitarist got married - none of us had met her before, in 7 months of playing together. As turns out, they were both adamant they were never going to the other's church, she hates his children and grandchildren and wants nothing to do with them(which breaks his heart), and now has started jamming him with a honey-do-list when he should be coming to practice. And he's retired, so she has him all day. Too say we all find her cold and bitchy would be an understatement....and he has no cajones to stand up to her at all. Is it un-Christian to tell him that his life, personal and spiritual, has apparently got so seriously jammed up we feel we can't go on with him? I personally feel it is ok to drop him, as the "work" is too important for us to let one person's bad decision stop the good work of the remaining 4. If this was a secular band I'd have no issue with cutting the dude loose. THoughts.