God, my band split up today and I am so relieved - it's like I've been dating someone for two years and it just wasn't quite right - though in a wierd way i am genuinely sad about it, that and the fact I travelled 120 miles round trip for about a year for rehearsals - that cost me a fortune! The good news is that we had two problem members (the drummer and rhythm guitarist) and rather than spend six months trying to replace them, the singer/lead guitarist has joined a band with much better prospects and a potential deal, thus avoiding more agonising gigs and time wasted, plus we're still friends - the one thing I will say though is that were actually really good live. But we were a rock band and now even at the age of 31 I just feel like I want to leave this stuff to younger musicians. It's not like I want to go and play country or show tunes all of a sudden - I just want to do something more satisfying musically, like the girlfriend analogy, she might have a great body but I need a bit more 'upstairs' now to really get off on this musically. I have to finally admit that i am a jazz/funk bass player - with a passion for good writing and singing - but not for nu-metal any more - how ****ing sad is that! I am showing my age here - but if any of you have been through similar growing pains it'd be cool to hear your thoughts.