Could your trust be earned again after an infidelity ?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by MAJOR METAL, Dec 21, 2007.

Could your trust be earned again after an infidelity ?

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  1. Yes

    16 vote(s)
  2. No

    48 vote(s)
  3. Carrot Cake

    10 vote(s)

    MAJOR METAL The Beagle Father Supporting Member

    Could your trust be earned again after an infidelity ?
  2. FL Knifemaker

    FL Knifemaker Guest

    Apr 9, 2006
    Lakeland, FL
    It all would depend on how hot she is :D
  3. I put no, but I was hoping there'd be a HELL NO! My first girlfriend was like that. She was cheating on her previous boyfriend with me, which I didn't know at the time. When things got rocky, she already had the next guy lined up. I broke up with her (a nympho :crying:) because I didn't like the odds that I could live by the sword and die by the sword. Didn't matter that I broke up with her, it had already happened.

    MAJOR METAL The Beagle Father Supporting Member

    Once a cheater allways a cheater ?
  5. Vic Winters

    Vic Winters

    Apr 20, 2006
    Western NY
  6. Sign of weakness in the willpower department. They know it's wrong, but they do it anyway because they can't resist.
  7. Steve


    Aug 10, 2001
    Nope. You can't put that toothpaste back in the tube.
  8. Been there, done that, own the t-shirt.

    Still married after 25 years. Everything comes with good and bad. You have consider what is really important.
  9. Basshole

    Basshole Inactive

    Jan 28, 2005
    Monogamy is not normal. You have to work to remain true to one person. Not everyone has that strength, or really wants that in their heart.

    If this is really important to you, then you will have to look long and hard for someone that isn't willing to settle for just anything that's long and hard.
  10. Johnny Crab

    Johnny Crab HELIX user & BOSE Abuser

    Feb 11, 2004
    Quote of the thread and closer?
  11. jomahu


    Dec 15, 2004
    Bos, MA
    monogamy isn't that important to me so it doesn't matter either way.

    but if i contracted something due to a partner's escapades...then it would be ON! :mad:
  12. Human Bass

    Human Bass

    Aug 26, 2005
    Yes, i've witness that. And from a very interesting perspective, since i was the guy who made the girl cheat on her bf.
  13. bassfacekevin

    bassfacekevin Guest

    Dec 22, 2005
    Ann Arbor, Michigan
    I mean, as a rational, logical objective person on this hypothetical question, I would say I would undoubtedly dump their sorry butt and not look back, however, love has a funny way of making you do some of the dumbest stuff imaginable.
  14. Aaron Saunders

    Aaron Saunders

    Apr 27, 2002
    Any of my past involvements -- absolutely not. If we've been dating for a week or 4 months, it's done without looking back.

    My current situation, I thought I might be able to should it ever come to that but it would be such a serious and unexpected blow that I really don't think I would, and even though I'd still end it, it wouldn't be a situation I'd be readily able to deal with at all.
  15. Benjamin Strange

    Benjamin Strange Commercial User

    Dec 25, 2002
    New Orleans, LA
    Owner / Tech: Strange Guitarworks
    Ouch... man, I just went through this in the worst possible way. I've been struggling for the past YEAR to forgive and forget, and in the end it proved to be impossible. Not only could I never fully trust her again, but I just found out that she had continued her rotten behaviour.

    The part that kills me most is that I will never know the whole truth.

    I'm headed down to the clinic to get myself tested as soon as they open back up after the holidays.

    It hurts my heart to think about it. Amazing how love is - you can be bitterly betrayed, and still not want to let them go...
  16. JimS

    JimS Gold Supporting Member

    Not if you castrate him or her.
  17. bongomania

    bongomania Supporting Member Commercial User

    Oct 17, 2005
    PDX, OR
    owner, OVNIFX and OVNILabs
    I have to vote yes. I cheated on my GF once about three years ago, and we stayed together and got counseling and worked through it, and I believe at this time (three years later) I have her trust again. Of course if she saw warning signs of me "acting wrong" that trust might go out the window. But anyway I figure if she can forgive me then I can forgive her. Not that forgiveness is easy, immediate, permanent, or 100% black-and-white... But I believe some toothpaste can be put back in the tube, with a lot of time and effort. ;)
  18. JansenW


    Nov 14, 2005
    Cambridge, MA
    It can be slowly regained but with a different trust.
  19. Munjibunga

    Munjibunga Retired Member

    May 6, 2000
    San Diego (when not at Groom Lake)
    Independent Contractor to Bass San Diego
    Nobody told you? With nymphos, you just enjoy it while it lasts.
  20. vbsurfer3001

    vbsurfer3001 Guest

    Jul 25, 2005
    Yes, one shouldn't work in absolutes...Everyone is a human being with human frailties, when you love someone you accept those frailties and hopefully through being open you work past any and all problems that arise. So long as both partners have love for each other, anything can be worked through.