Could your trust be earned again after an infidelity ?

It all would depend on how hot she is

 

I put no, but I was hoping there'd be a HELL NO! My first girlfriend was like that. She was cheating on her previous boyfriend with me, which I didn't know at the time. When things got rocky, she already had the next guy lined up. I broke up with her (a nympho ) because I didn't like the odds that I could live by the sword and die by the sword. Didn't matter that I broke up with her, it had already happened.

 

+1

 

Sign of weakness in the willpower department. They know it's wrong, but they do it anyway because they can't resist.

 

Nope. You can't put that toothpaste back in the tube.

 

Been there, done that, own the t-shirt.

Still married after 25 years. Everything comes with good and bad. You have consider what is really important.

 

Monogamy is not normal. You have to work to remain true to one person. Not everyone has that strength, or really wants that in their heart.

If this is really important to you, then you will have to look long and hard for someone that isn't willing to settle for just anything that's long and hard.

 

Quote of the thread and closer?

 

monogamy isn't that important to me so it doesn't matter either way.

but if i contracted something due to a partner's escapades...then it would be ON!

 

Yes, i've witness that. And from a very interesting perspective, since i was the guy who made the girl cheat on her bf.

 

I mean, as a rational, logical objective person on this hypothetical question, I would say I would undoubtedly dump their sorry butt and not look back, however, love has a funny way of making you do some of the dumbest stuff imaginable.

 

Any of my past involvements -- absolutely not. If we've been dating for a week or 4 months, it's done without looking back.

My current situation, I thought I might be able to should it ever come to that but it would be such a serious and unexpected blow that I really don't think I would, and even though I'd still end it, it wouldn't be a situation I'd be readily able to deal with at all.

 

Ouch... man, I just went through this in the worst possible way. I've been struggling for the past YEAR to forgive and forget, and in the end it proved to be impossible. Not only could I never fully trust her again, but I just found out that she had continued her rotten behaviour.

The part that kills me most is that I will never know the whole truth.

I'm headed down to the clinic to get myself tested as soon as they open back up after the holidays.

It hurts my heart to think about it. Amazing how love is - you can be bitterly betrayed, and still not want to let them go...

 

Not if you castrate him or her.

 

I have to vote yes. I cheated on my GF once about three years ago, and we stayed together and got counseling and worked through it, and I believe at this time (three years later) I have her trust again. Of course if she saw warning signs of me "acting wrong" that trust might go out the window. But anyway I figure if she can forgive me then I can forgive her. Not that forgiveness is easy, immediate, permanent, or 100% black-and-white... But I believe some toothpaste can be put back in the tube, with a lot of time and effort.

 

It can be slowly regained but with a different trust.

 

Nobody told you? With nymphos, you just enjoy it while it lasts.

 

Yes, one shouldn't work in absolutes...Everyone is a human being with human frailties, when you love someone you accept those frailties and hopefully through being open you work past any and all problems that arise. So long as both partners have love for each other, anything can be worked through.