I have a friend at my day job that I've had a longtime love/hate relationship with. We were good friends until a little over a year ago when he kind of inappropriately exploded on me one day in our work cafeteria. He was totally out of line (there were many witnesses who affirmed it), and he never apologized. Because we see each other every day I kinda let it slide... But never really trusted the guy after that. He and I argue about diet, constantly. He's been an Atkins guy for about 12 years, and eats nothing but meat. I'm a vegetarian. I don't really care what anybody else eats, but this guy preached constantly about carbs, and it was hard not to get into it with him.... Anyhow, on Friday he texted me asking for money for a surprise party for a coworker who's getting married. He didn't know I was going to the woman's wedding, and I won't be able to go to the surprise party (just a small 1 hour work thing). I'm not going to donate, and woke up this morning ready for an argument with him. I knew full well he was going to give me a hard time, judge me, and yada, yada, yada.... As he's usually one of the first people I see in the morning I entered the building prepared as I realized I never returned his text. I was greeted by another coworker as soon as I walked in the door, and was told that he died yesterday. Of a massive heart attack. I'm numb, and actually just venting here.... There's more to this story. Our diet arguments revolved around which was a healthier diet. All meat no carbs, or no meat, low carbs (talkin processed carbs here). A big part of our conversations ended by joking that this will be settled by who dies first. And then we'd joke about snickering at the wake and funeral. We joked about that a lot, too... So people knew about it. We had a contest going on.... I won. He was 2 years younger than me. I feel really really effed up right now. Despite our misgivings and differences, he ws a friend. Vent over. At the risk of sounding cliche - cherish your days. They're numbered, and there's no telling when that numbers coming up. But you all already know that. It's just amplified for me right now.