I’m in a band with a couple long-standing friends, and a few other guys, and could use some advice managing a situation. We are more or less a hobby band, but we treat it fairly seriously (with massive caveat below). Paid gigs, decent money for what’s in our smallish market (there are no full time pros here). Turn out good sized crowds, get positive response from bar owners and invited back. Average about one gig a month, sometimes a little more, sometimes less. The problem is scheduling, and in particular, my two friends are the problem. Keys player was out of town for 6 weeks this summer. Singer took 3 weeks of non consecutive vacation this summer. Blew were able to play a few gigs over the summer, but had to turn down a bunch. This is really the best time locally for getting gigs, and fall/winter are slimmer pickings (our favorite venue went out of business recently). This doesn’t seem to bother them much. Fast forward to now. We’ve got a couple gigs booked for the fall. Got a text from the singer last week that he wanted to move one of them so he could go out of town. I’ve now been going back and forth with the bar owner trying to find a new date that works for everybody. I’m pissed. We have enough trouble booking gigs, and it is massively unprofessional to cancel once we’ve already committed to and started promoting a gig So I’m not sure what to do. Fundamentally; I think playing is more important to me than it is to them. We are going to have to have a band meeting about this, but I’m not sure they are going to change. Were these guys not friends, I’d likely just play out our scheduled gigs and then quit, but I don’t necessarily want to burn those bridges. I am starting to look for other band options, but I’m not sure I have time to play in two bands, and if I do, that just compounds our scheduling issues. Advice? Anyone dealt with this sort of thing?