I need the advice of the assembled wisdom of TB. I’ve just been passed over for a gig with a band that I’ve helped out for a few of rehearsals. It’s a bit awkward as I was trying to position myself as the first choice stand in on bass, but it now appears (to me at least) that the band leader thinks I’m not good enough for the gigs. (To be fair the band are very good, and I am punching above my weight), but, if I’m good enough for the rehearsal, surely I’m good enough for the gigs? If not, get the guy who’s doing the gig to do the rehearsals.. Anyway, the background: This is a big band setup playing 60’s-70’d funk/big band stuff (definitely no Glen Miller type of gig.. [more Gordon Goodwin if you look it up on youtube]) and its all reading dots.. They are REALLY tight as a band, and if I’m being honest, that’s a point I’m a bit weak on. Reading semi-quaver (eighth note) off beats is not my strong point, although I can sight read 90% of the big band/jazz charts I’ve ever seen. (So it’s not like I’m a complete beginner) They are semi-pro financially, but fully pro in their attitude. However, after playing bass for 20 years plus, I’ve realised that I take these knockbacks really seriously. I was previously kicked out of a function band for not learning the parts and relying of the dots. (Which in hindsight was: a] a fair point and I could have learned the parts, and b] a bit hypocritical as the brass section always had music. So, one mistake is acceptable, two means I haven’t leant from the first one. Also I seem to take them really personally. It’s easy to say, “let it go man” but I’m still anoyed about getting the boot nearly 10 years ago, even though I’ve done many, many great gigs since. Im not that sensitive about my day job, but I take musical rejection much worse. So, enough (drunk) ramblings, my question to the great and good of TB: A) Do I have a problem with rejection, or do you all remain bitter about your previous failures? B) Is that last 10% of sight reading ability important enough to warrant putting the hours in? Your thoughts please.. I think I know the answers (no and yes) but I'd value your thoughts.