I play in a band that is starting to get better gigs and gain some traction. Our guitar player has had two bad sound man experiences in a row and is insisting that he won't play any more gigs-including those already booked, unless we have our own person mixing and setting up that "knows the band's sound" because "we deserve the best". I have pointed out that an equal share of our take wouldn't be enough to hire even a marginally competent person. His response was pretty childish and personal and insinuated that I didn't care how we sounded. Two of the booked gigs are at pretty prestigious venues known for stellar sound where we will be opening for popular touring acts. In my experience, venues that have their own PA and sound guy don't tend to let folks they don't know near the soundboard. Cancelling on short notice would not be very helpful with getting future gigs to say the least. I am too old and too impatient to deal with this sort of soap opera garbage and am strongly considering moving on. He is far more essential to the band from a musical perspective than I am and the band would likely call it a day if he left. I have plenty of other low-drama playing opportunities to keep me busy.