In my P&W band our vocalist really isn't up to par and we've asked him to try to improve but he hasn't. He has no pitch control, no idea of tempo, and can't harmonize. Anyway, we've been planning to have a talk with him about and have him focus on his rhythm playing and my drummer has been agitated because he's been holding in the talk for about a month and we planned to do it after we play our last shows for February. Anyhoozel, the vocalist kinda forced the talk yesterday and essentially we told him: We want you to play and not sing as much. We want to focus things more around our other vocalist. We've had people who've seen our shows or heard our recordings say that we need to focus more around the other singer and get you off the mic. We're by no means trying to kick you out. Anyway, all he says is 'Ok, i guess i won't sing anymore' and walks off and says nothing to us the rest of the night. Anyway, a guy from another band calls our drummer and says we handled it completely wrong and that when we mentioned the audience's opinion it really hurt him. That kinda confused the rest of us, seeing that as musicians our goal is to serve the audience(mostly God, but we still have a responsibility to the audience). That set our drummer off and he was saying things like, 'Fine, i'm wrong. I'll just quit.' Our drummer is essentially the core of our band when it comes to songwriting and booking shows. Plus he's the perfect fit for my playing. Sorry for the long post and excessive use of the word 'anyway', i wanted to vent and wanted to know what TBers think of how we handled this.