At 45 years old, I am finding it harder and harder to find a band to play with because I can't handle any kind of BS. For the last 20 years, I have made mental notes of things would not tolerate from the next band I was in (bad drummers, lazy attitudes,lack of communication,etc). I just recently tried to get back into playing with a band after a 4 year break due to medical problems. Found a band in my town looking to start a 90's country cover project, and I thought it would be something easy to help me get back into gigging. First meeting was with just the guitar player, and it went well. We set up a rehearsal for the following Sunday evening with him and the female singer, but that got cancelled at the last minute(Sunday afternoon) because female singer had went out of town for the weekend. He offered to reschedule, so I said yes since all the songs I was given to learn were hers.. I texted him back the following Sunday when I hadn't heard anything, and got no response. Another week went by, so i sent another text asking if the project was still on. Again, no response. 2 more weeks go by, and after wondering if I had somehow did something to offend him, I finally get a message this past Sunday that he had finally found drummer and wanted to rehearse this coming Saturday. I knew going into the project that not all the members were in place yet, and I was ok with it. I am not the type to give or need instantaneous responses, because I understand that family and work usually comes first, but I just don't think I should have waited 4 weeks for him to tell me something simple like still looking for a drummer. That is a big warning flag of thing to come. Part of me wanted to just not respond at all, but I sent him a text tonight saying I have moved on to a different project since I hadn't heard back from him in 4 weeks. "Different project" meaning I would rather practice alone. Do any of you older musicians feel the same way?