My band has a message board on our website which we use to communicate thoughts and ideas when we're not at practice. This week it has all been critiques of my bass playing. At our last practice, we were playing one of our newest songs which we'd been playing for a couple of weeks, and the singer turned around and told me to stop playing so many fills. I got miffed because he always complains but never offers anything: "Don't play fills" not "Could you try placing a fill here and here but leave it out here so that we don't have possible tone fights if I do a vocal bit here?" He turned around and said I always play too many fills and that makes it difficult for him to sing melodies. I told him I never play any fills, and besides that I only had one solo which he decided to start singing over, which now reduces me to having 0 solos, even after I spent hours working on the perfect solo for the spot. We fought about that for a while, at which point he said if i was so sure i never played any fills that he would post a critique on the website. I said fine. The next week he posted about 2 pages of critique that was all about the "busy-ness" of my bass playing, hardly even mentioning fills. I replied, and it's been a massive fight page after page about my bass playing, how he says that i need to change my "approach" to bass, and that I should play like all these other people because he likes them, that again my approach is wrong, my technique is wrong, what I'm doing is wrong, etc. It really steams me because I've been playing just fine, I've been happy with how I've been playing (even though I could improve, we all can), and I do not want to change my "approach" to writing music because I think it's a really fundamental part of my enjoyment of playing bass as it stands. I call up the rest of the band, and their response is "if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Your bass playing is fine. Your tone could stand to be improved, however." so, i consented. I said that this coming friday we will work on my bass playing. My singer then returns with "oh i was at guitar center and this guy was playing these walking basslines on this equipment and it sounded great, you should play that style and you should play that equipment and one of those basses." the guitarist said "i saw this other band and their bassist's tone was fantastic, you should try to sound like him." again, the critiques came down to them wanting me to play and sound like other people. I start to take this personally because I don't want to *be* other people, I want to have my own sound. I have ALWAYS received compliments from other bass players and other musicians at our shows about how great my tone is and how unique my style is, but I keep getting told by the band that I should try to sound like other people who, while great, play much more straightforward styles, which, while that works great for the band and what they want to do, just don't appeal to me as a musician. Now everyone is pissed at me for getting mad about this whole thing, and I think it's only going to get worse. I'm trying to be open to ideas, but I am also standing firm about my style and technique - I will take suggestions, and whenever we write songs and someone wants me to try something, i ALWAYS work something out, i have never once ignored a suggestion. But I feel like I'm being pigeonholed. I am the primary songwriter - when the band wants a new song, they ask me to share some basslines. So it always *starts* with a bassline, and then the guitarist starts coming up with guitar riffs, then the drummer starts playing and after we get some music going, the singer comes in and starts singing. After the song is going, I often re-adapt my bassline for what is going on, so that the song itself flows better as a whole. But then I get all this "you need to change your approach to music and play more long sustained notes and simpler basslines" then they turn around and want a brand new song from me. I feel like I am at the end of my rope here. Does anyone else get this? And how do you deal with it in context of the band? I love the music we are creating, but I can't stand being told what to play, who to sound like, and what gear I should be playing on. I am never asked what _I_ want out of my bass playing or my tone or technique, it's just "I don't like this, change it." What would you guys do in this situation, or what did you do if you were *IN* this situation?