Hello Talkbass, There is currently drama going on in my band and I’d be grateful for some advice from the more seasoned among you. We’ve been playing together for about a year and a half now. It’s purely a hobby, play in a garage, haven’t had any gigs yet. We’ve recently decided to go into the studio for the first time to record one of our songs. We also got offered to be a warmup act from one of the bands from our practice space and have been really excited about it. Yesterday, the drummer went into the studio to lay down the drums, and this is when poopie hit the fan. Apparently, he couldn’t get it right, so the engineer called it a day and told him to either practice more or simplify the part before coming back. The drummer is absolutely crushed and depressed now. We’ve assured him it’s no big deal, but it hasn’t helped. He’s cancelled the recording altogether. He also doesn’t want to do the gig. Says he needs time to pull himself back together and I feel he might be on the verge of quitting. He’s an older guy and has low self-esteem when it comes to playing due to some bad experiences with bands he’s been in in the past, so he’s quite sensitive about criticism. I should add he’s a solid drummer and we’ve been happy with him, although he does has his limitations (as we all do…it hasn’t been a problem). The guitarists and I are a bit bummed, but chill. Our vocalist, however, is freaking out. She’s rather ambitious and hot-headed, and has already organised an intervention for tomorrow. I’m afraid she’ll try to pressure him into doing the gig to the point where he’ll snap and leave the band. I’ve talked to the guitarists and we’re just not sure how to go about dealing with the situation. I say we should cancel the gig, be supportive, and give the drummer time to recover, then continue recording. The guitarists are afraid the singer will walk if she feels things aren’t moving along and we cancel the gig. What do you think? Any advice will be appreciated. TL;DR drummer depressed about his playing due to a studio fiasco, wants to cancel our first gig. Singer is freaking out and might inadvertently push the drummer into quitting. If we cancel the gig, we’re afraid the singer will get fed up and leave. What do?