Fatal Car Accident

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by Prime Mover, Jun 30, 2003.

  1. Prime Mover

    Prime Mover

    Feb 16, 2003
    TN, USA
    My ex/best friend lost a friend today through a head on collision. A Ford Explorer veered into her lane and killed her. She was 47 years old. It was stated that the gentleman driving the Explorer was not speeding and there were no signs of alcohol. The are investigating why he ended up in her lane.

    The reason why I am posting this thread is, I don't know how to be with him, to let him know that I am there for him. I feel that every thing I say to him wont make any sense. I have lost loved ones through cancer and I lost a brother through drowning. I knew my mother was dying so, I knew what to expect. I didn't know my brother too well, but it was still a tragedy, and I had my older sister to help me through that. I have never had anyone taken from me through a car accident, so I do not know what he is going through.

    Any suggestions on what I should do to ease his pain?

    Thanx in advance for your sound advice.
  2. Tell him your there for him, and send him our condolences :(


    I lost my bud last year to a car crash. it hurts. Just listen to what he has to say, and try and keep him talking. Make him remember the good times.

    She's in a better place liek I said in Bobby's thread. Help him keep his head up.
  3. BigBohn


    Sep 29, 2001
    WPB, Florida
    My condolences as well. Keep your head up and tell him to do so as well. It'll be tough for a few days but he'll get over it. He's got to. Life is a delicate thing and death is a normal part of life as instances like this show. So tragic are traffic accidents though.

    I'm 15 years old and a good friend of mine (age 16) was killed by a drunk driver late at night while she was going for a taco run with her friends. Seat belts and everything, she was the only one that died. 2 years in the same classes with her, and just thinking that the last time I saw her alive, vivacious, and beautiful was the last day of school. Gave her a hug and said we'd get together over summer. I guess not, but it's okay. I knew she was angel the first time I met her; she's just going home a little early I guess.

    Sorry for your loss and I hope you make through all this well.
  4. ARA punk

    ARA punk

    Jul 11, 2001
    USA, Shelby, NC
    Just be there for him/her. Just let them know you're there for them and that anything they need to talk to you about you're more than happy to listen. Good luck to you and my condolances to your friend.
  5. Prime Mover

    Prime Mover

    Feb 16, 2003
    TN, USA
    Thank you guys for the advice. I am doing all I can to let him know that I am there for him. All I want to do is jump in my car and run to him. Wrap my arms around him, and protect him from his pain. He stated that she was like a mother to him, and I know what he is going through. All I want to do is make it right. But I can't. I cannot bring her back. You all are right. All I can do is be there for him, and lend him a listing ear. I so feel his hurt right now...Like it happened to me. I cannot stop the tears from flowing, and I never met this wonderful lady that touched him so much. Crap, I think I turned his tragedy into mine. How selfish of me.

    Anywho, thanx for the advice.

  6. PM, don't feel selfish, its silly to make it your loss, but don't make it worse!!


    good luck, and i suggest you go over and see your buddy, and give him a big hug!!
  7. Prime Mover

    Prime Mover

    Feb 16, 2003
    TN, USA
    He is a loner...when he is ready for me, he will call me. I am going to let him have his time to grieve on his own. I do love him with all of my heat, and all I can do is be there for him when he is ready for me.

  8. Bob Clayton

    Bob Clayton Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Aug 14, 2001
    Deptford, NJ
    there is nothing you can do but express your sorrow for him and tell him that you are there for him if he needs you
  9. Ty McNeely

    Ty McNeely

    Mar 27, 2000
    One week ago 2 young boys from my school (17 and 19) were killed in a car crash. They went over a low water crossing at approx 110, lost control, rolled side to side 4 times and end over end twice, ending up 700 feet from where they originally lost control and over 50 yards off side of the road. Both died immediately from massive head injuries.

    That makes 3 major wrecks that people from my school have been in within about 30 days, and it all started with mine on May 23. Two have died, one is still in critical condition 2 weeks later, 3 are still hospitalized, and thankfully I am almost fully recovered.

    What is it about this time of the year? Do people lose all brainpower when they get in a car?

    P.S. Sorry to hijack your thread prime. I realized after I posted that the thread isn't about car wrecks. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend.