fear of talkbass

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous [BG]' started by Joe Nerve, Aug 26, 2001.

  1. Joe Nerve

    Joe Nerve

    Oct 7, 2000
    New York City
    Endorsing artist: Musicman basses
    ok. I gotta get over this one.

    Had an experience about a week or so ago that made me somewhat paranoid. A while ago I had an opportunity to play with one of my favorite bands, Bumblefoot. Things didn't work out, and I wrote about my experience here. I was upset at the time. I recently contacted the main guy in Bumblefoot again, and in the email I sent him I included a link to this site and asked him to pass it along to anyone who might be interested. He emailed me back saying he visited the site a while ago, someone forwarded him the thread I started regarding my experience with his band. OUCH! I quickly did a search for that thread, and thank god I only praised him and Bumblefoot. Ironically, bacause of that thread - I wound up playing with them last week and will probably wind up doing some gigs with them. I am elated.

    My dilemma........ I've been holding off at Talkbass since then because:

    A. I don't want anyone forwarding him anything else I write regarding him, Bumblefoot, my feelings, hopes, excitement, doubts or whatever about it.

    B. My cover band, which is beginning to pay well, is insane about my participation in other projects - so I'm not telling them anything I do anymore, and I've become paranoid of them hearing about my new "project" and giving me hell. I've also wanted to post about this and ask others opinions, but haven't.

    What am I trying to say here? Not sure. Just trying express my feelings about my concern over my postings here... and maybe ask that if anyone forwards any of anyone's posting to anyone else, that they do it with great care and respect? I feel you guys are family, and I like to be able to talk about everything that's going on candidly. I want to share my excitement, my fears, my hopes, etc. and do so with a clear head.
  2. Nino Valenti

    Nino Valenti Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 2, 2001
    Staten Island NYC
    Builder: Valenti Basses
    Don't worry, I emailed all the people mentiond in this thread & they will contact you shortly. :)
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  3. XavierG

    XavierG In Memoriam


    I'm not sure I follow (I have a short attention span). Correct me if I'm wrong, but, are you suggesting that you are back-stabbing this guy in some thread here at TB and then cozying up to him out there in real life?

    Because this is a public forum, it might be wise to choose ones words carefully before puting them down in writing.

  4. Nino Valenti

    Nino Valenti Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 2, 2001
    Staten Island NYC
    Builder: Valenti Basses
    No. In the original thread, JN was upset that the band (bumblefoot) broke up. He was saying how much he wanted to play w/them & the "praise" got back to Bumblefoot band member.
  5. Joe Nerve

    Joe Nerve

    Oct 7, 2000
    New York City
    Endorsing artist: Musicman basses
    Perhaps I wasn't very clear. I just so happened to have said very nice things in that particular instance. I was lucky that time and it worked to my advantage. I have probably said at other times some not so nice things involving other people - and I feel really cautious now. I guess your advice as far as this being a public forum is something we just have to take into consideration.
  6. XavierG

    XavierG In Memoriam

    Forgive me for the misunderstanding, but, not having read the original thread that you refer to, it was a logical assumption.

    I always say, if you say it on the internet, you may as well be on international tv. Be prepared to deal with the consequences.
  7. FalsehoodBass

    FalsehoodBass Guest

    Jul 22, 2001
    Denver, CO
    as long as you avoid the personal attacks, you could just talk about bass... and you'd be good to go right?
    or we could tall the forum.. talksht and then we could act accordingly :)
  8. john turner

    john turner You don't want to do that. Trust me. Staff Member

    Mar 14, 2000
    atlanta ga
    i'd make sure that you not say anything that you wouldn't say face-to-face.

    then you can own up to it if/when it ever comes to light in person.
  9. Brad Johnson

    Brad Johnson Inactive

    Mar 8, 2000
    Gaithersburg, Md
    DR Strings
    Right, JT. It almost sounds too simple;)

    This place isn't a confessional, there's no TB/member confidentiality agreement in place, no filters for who can read what you say, so...

    Only say it if you mean it. 'Cause you never know.

    That's what I do:)
  10. Bass Guitar

    Bass Guitar Supporting Member

    Aug 13, 2001
    Say what you mean, and mean what you say.

    Post about what you think, and think about what you post.

    Read the post back to yourself before hitting the "Submit Reply" button... :)
  11. Aaron


    Jun 2, 2001
    Seattle, WA
    be confused about what is confusing?!!! :confused:
  12. melvin

    melvin Guest

    Apr 28, 2001
    I feel like the Karate Kid after reading that, you being the teacher dude.
  13. I understand how you feel about the community here, but you need to be clear on something. This is not like having a beer with some friends in the privacy of your home. This is essentially PUBLIC space (with some limitations, I guess), which means that basically anybody can see anything you write here if they make some minimal effort. Which means that you should have no reasonable expectation of privacy here. If you don't want something to get out to somebody else, just don't say it here. Say it over the phone or in personal e-mail. It's that simple. Or else be prepared to deal with the results if someone comes across what you say on the Web.

    I won't get into the ethics or advisability of forwarding somebody's post, but think of it this way: if you don't put it out there, it can't be forwarded.

    Putting a message on a message board is the electronic equivalent of stapling a written message to a telephone pole. You have no control over who reads it.

    I'm not trying to be harsh, just telling it like it is.
  14. Josh Ryan

    Josh Ryan - that dog won't hunt, Monsignor. Supporting Member

    Mar 24, 2001
    Well Joe, after reading your FBI file and speaking with your mom and your creditors I'd say we can keep everything under wraps....:D
  15. Bass Guitar

    Bass Guitar Supporting Member

    Aug 13, 2001
    Mr. Miyagi: "Little Grasshopper... it is time to teach you the Phoenix Karate Kick... try to catch a fly with your chopsticks now... and don't forget to polish my car..."


    P.S. After the first Karate Kid movie, the next few ones were quite sad...
  16. Bruce Lindfield

    Bruce Lindfield Unprofessional TalkBass Contributor Gold Supporting Member In Memoriam

    That's right - I always just say exactly what I would in "real life". I often think of it like I'm in my local Jazz club and talk in the way I would when discussing music with friends there - this is my local "Bass" club! ;)