Oh band drama! I've recently ran into some troubles with my band, not really sure how or if I should go about continuing, but anywho.... I've been a part of this band for years, although I'm not a founding member, I'm the only sturdy bass player who's been a part of the project. Over the course of this past year, taken up singing lead vocals. Out of all the bands I've been a part of, this would easily be the one I've put the most time and effort into. We're a power-trio. Guitarist, drummer, and myself. For the past half a year or so, the guitarist and I have been at a creative standstill. Both of us having our own reasons. The guitar player has riffs and ideas o' plenty, but when it comes to figuring out some of the ideas I bring to the table, I find time and time again that he doesn't want to commit to learning them. He's not the greatest with rhythm and timing, I've tried to be patient but it isn't a matter of me teaching the riffs. It's a matter of him taking the time to practice and develop his skills in his own freetime. It's frustrating. He knows he isn't tight with rhythm, he's said it to the band on multiple occasions, but we never saw any change. So I got discouraged from us writing together, I held my ideas back knowing I'd have to simplify them or change them all together. I started jamming with some other people. The guitar player got mad and called me out on it, so I told him how I felt about the situation....... I've wanted to talk to him about improving his skills for a while now. He's a talented guy, comes up with some great ideas and had drive to push the band forward, but if he could just apply himself a little more he, and all of us, could be doing so much more. Trying to find a good way to tell him this without stepping on him was a challenge. I didn't want to p*** him off and lose him a friend, but at the same time I couldn't keep standing silently while my ideas are never brought to fruition. As many of you know however, criticism is never taken lightly....We talked, and like I had dreaded, he got mad and decided to pull all of his stuff out of my practice space. He's quitting music all together it seems. (A little history) This band has been through a number of lineup changes. Our original singer also player rhythm guitar, we went separate ways with him after he couldn't put down the bottle and the pills. Our original drummer fizzled out on music and sold all of his gear. After the original vocalist, we brought in a new front man, he ended up passing away in a car accident last summer. The guitarist and I linked up about a year ago and found a new drummer to get the wheels turning again. We started out strong, but the situation steadily declined as you've read above. HERE'S WHERE I NEED THE OPINIONS With pretty much all of the original members being 'done with music all together' I'm left the only one from that group still wanting to go on and play. Although no, I was not a founding member, the material we've developed and continued to play through the years are some of which I've had a pretty decent impact on. Would it be wrong of me to find new musicians to continue keeping the music alive? If the guitar player wanted to quit and start a new band with the songs I could understand being wrong, but with him quitting music, what's going to happen to all that? All that effort that we had put into these songs over the years? All fading away to nothing? I feel like he wouldn't want to see his role replaced (who does?) and it feels like a d*** move, but if I don't keep those originals alive, no one else will. What do you think TB?