By this, I mean playing in small bars for small crowds from 9:30 PM - 1:30 AM. I'm 35 now. I have a job, family, etc. Also involved in local city government, my church, etc. I'm busy. I still love playing in our band. I like the two other guys (we're a power trio, as I've posted about before). We are good...we aren't great. We never will be great. We aren't going to be the band getting called for local festivals or bigger venues. I've accepted that. In the past six months or so, I have de-prioritized the band somewhat in my life. I don't actively try to get gigs anymore. What I mean by that, is that I do follow up with our regular spots, but I will no longer do the "chase down a bar manager and beg for a gig" schtick. I also don't really play up the social media stuff and in general, I am not making the band as huge a part of my life as it used to be. We have played out only three times so far this year, which is down a bit from what we were doing in previous years. Frankly, I'm fine with this, and the two other guys seem to be fine with it, too. They also have busy jobs, family lives, etc. What I have noticed, personally, is that the past two or three gigs have been a real grind for me. I don't know if it's my age, or what. I work out regularly, eat a pretty healthy diet, am not overweight (OK, I could lose maybe five pounds...who couldn't?). Still, by the end of the night, my back feels like it was beaten with a 2x4, and I'm completely exhausted (noticeably so to other people). I dread setup and tear down. I also know and fully acknowledge that my playing isn't where I want it to be by the end of the night, though no one else says anything about that. I have 2-3 drinks over the course of the evening, so it's not like I'm getting wasted or it's affecting my playing. It's just that I'm worn out! My wife and I have a three year old...he doesn't stay in bed just because daddy is tired. I probably got four and a half hours sleep last night, after getting home around 2:30 AM from last night's gig. Last night's show went perfectly fine...small rural bar with a small crowd. People danced here and there, but overall it just wasn't a big night at this place, and there wasn't much energy. Lots of polite applause after most songs, but that's about it. Bar owners want us back once again, and we got paid, as usual. I'm just starting to wonder if it's time to say, "I'm not going to do these late night gigs anymore." Of course, for a band like us, that would mean we will play out very little, if at all. Thoughts?