Finally got to rage quit!

Good for you.

I can think of a couple of times when I did it all nice and professional, and it was not appreciated and blew up in my face. I shoulda rage quit more than I have.

 

10 years? What was the problem? Why wasn't it dealt with before?

 

Pics of fired drummer or it didn't happen.

 

So he already knew you had another gig?

 

It's hard to juggle multiple band gigs so the calendar is the best way. If you had a "commitment" scheduled on the 22nd and he had a "Potential" gig on the 22nd .. you win. Now the question is ... will you be able to get by just playing with only 4 bands? As Tarek El Moussa says on "Flip or Flop" ... "time to find another band to flip"

 

Not easy to juggle that many busy bands.

 

I usually send out blackout dates to all the different bands I play/sub in. I don't like BL's who book gigs without checking with band mates first.

 

Seems to me that you made the right choice and he knows it. If he wants the bandmembers to keep more of an open calendar to accommodate him, then he should get better gigs and pay more. How hard is it to figure that out?

Besides, BL, like drummers, are over-rated for the most part.

The only thing to remember is that how we treat people is more of a reflection on us, not the idiot who deserved it.

 

Generally speaking, I wipe my behind with the "band leader" culture. Most times what I see is band "bosses", leadership is something you have to earn. A guy that doesn't know (or doesn't care for) the basics of scheduling for working musicians is way far from being a leader and, unless he's paying enough to compensate for the b/s, he ain't no boss either. If there's a situation worth spending some rage quit credit it's this one, so well done.

 

Because 4-5 guys trying to agree on every decision always go SO well.

 

Guess I wasn't clear enough. Not advocating band democracy at all, been there and it never worked. What I'm saying is in every band I've been there's either a boss that pays enough for everybody to do what they he wants OR one person who would be so good/hard working at what they do (be it music, booking, whatever) that he'd earned leadership in the minds of the rest of the band. Not a de facto thing, I mean, nobody forms a band and says "X will be the BL/ruler", it eventually develops, based on merit.

 

I'm not the band leader, but for a long while I was the band alpha, getting the gigs and bouncing them around others' schedules. Our drummer is good and plays in another gigging band and recently I've been asked to join a second band. I sort of gave up the alpha spot, but may need to pick it back up if no one else grabs it. This is the band I like the most.

 

No, not always. Sometimes, the leader is the one with the concept and the desire to do the work, even if their efforts fall short.

So, yes, sometimes someone just nominates themselves a leader. Actually, it's outrageously common..

 

Hmm, seems like you're too even-tempered to rage quit, and more like you got rage fired by a controlling BL. Report back when you've kicked over the guitarist's stack and punched a few holes in the wall of the rented practice space