So I've just recently gotten out of college and looking for a new band to get something going with. I played with a steady band all throughout high school and a little of college. We had something good going and made alot of money, headlined some cool shows and opened for some pretty big bands, had talent, and know how but no one is interested in doing it anymore. I lived with a drummer in college and played with alot of random musicians working on all types of stuff. Have had experience recording, I have plenty of experience, know how, talent, and gear... so I assumed this would be a somewhat easy thing to do. I lined up a few bands through connects and put an ad on craigslist. Went through the suitors with a fine tooth comb and picked some out that might have potential. It has turned into a stress nightmare! Its just friggin music what the hell is wrong with you people!! My summary of bands thus far Band #1- Nice guys, very devoted and seriously want to do the music thing. Going for the poppy rock kinda sound, not very original and dont have the song theory down well. Every guitar line has a **** load of open cords and too much distortion, not melodic at all.. and there all like 7 min long.. and the vocals suck.. but they think there about to get signed and move to LA Band #2- Rap group, early Roots type sound. Very cool stuff to play and sounds great. Just not serious at all, we played like 20 min and that was their practice time. No CD, only played one gig, next.. Band #3- Responded by email wanting me to come audition that night, I was at work. Schedualed me to come audition the next night at 11 PM, but didnt pick up their phone to give me directions til 12:30. Turn out to be some little rich boys that sing really poppy stuff. Would be ok because they could get gigs and probably a following pretty easily. Played songs I hadn't heard before about as dead on as possible. But I think they were more worried about how I dressed than how I played. Didn't call me back. Band #4- Older guys both have played professionally, and seem cool, but hadn't heard their stuff yet. Been talking to one of them for about a month while the other moved into town. Really excited as we seemed on the same page. I was about 20 min late coming to rehearsal because I got stuck in rediculous traffic on a Sat. Called the guy and got directions around it, let him know I would be a little late. Show up and the guy that I haven't talked to before sais he has to leave in 10 minutes to go to a show? I was just in traffic for a freakin hour and he is more concerned about hitting a club than his band? We jammed real quick and went through a few of their songs. Played them dead on and had a cool jam going. We schedualed another time to play, and the day of that he calls to tell me they had previously schedualed another guy to come out? I told them to call when they had a time they could definately play. Never heard from them again. Band #5- Another group of older guys, with some pretty decent funky tunes. A little low key, and been done many times, but fun stuff to play none the less. Had sent me a demo and schedualed about 5 sessions and they cancelled every one of them at the last minute. I finally get to play with them, unprepared as I didn't bother learning their stuff since I assumed they would cancel on me again, and hadn't had alot of time latey with other people I had gone to play with. Asked one to show me the tune real quick before we went over it (all I need is 30 seconds!) and he tells me they wont bottle feed me and wants to know if I can play any without him showing me. So I lie and we go over another that I play pretty well. Go over a few other tunes and not really impressed with any of them. They keep heckling me and say their jaded because they've been around (even though earlier they were talking about their last show where everyone left when they went on stage, then had it taken over by MC's, and left without getting paid... guess they havent been around long enough to do a good show?). Anyways I tried to set up another time to come out while I was there to give it another shot, so maybe they wouldn't set up another time they couldn't do. They told me to call them when I could "kill" their stuff. Haven't given their CD a second listen, just can't deal with assholes like that. Band #6- Holy Sh*t this is it! Guys are my age, guitar player was a "child prodigy" and has a famous father, and rediculous connects. Had a killer jam session, just amazing! Some of the best musicians I've played with. There really excited about me and want me to join. All is well accept their kinda weird, just cant do much but play music and they don't have a strong relationship together. I could really care less at this point, start learning their stuff and get together with the guitar player a few times and get the songs down. Calls me yesterday to tell me that he's not playing with the drummer anymore, the drummer just doesn't want to play with him. He now has a famous drummer, and is hiring a session bass player and hitting the road with money daddy gave him next fall. Who knows if that will happen, but it's possible, at any rate I'm not included, and not even sure if I would be intrested. So what am I doing wrong!! I've probably played with around 10 groups so far and straight up not gone to play with 4 times that, that I just wasn't interested in. Is there a better way to find people? I dont really have the time to start something by myself right now. I want to play music, and I want to do it NOW!!! I'm open to different types of music, I have been playing a bunch of different stuff. But I'm not going to kiss someones ass so I can go play music with them and more than likely not get paid for it, atleast not much for awhile. But I am a nice guy, and have been nice and straightforward with everybody. Just can't seem to get it right?