I'm in a side-project with a guitarist from my main band (which is sort of up on bricks at the moment) and a singer who I was at college with. We're working on more acoustic-y songs with a light, pastoral feel. A folky sort of music without all the ale and ships going down in storms at a guess. We've talked about getting a drummer in, so I took the initiative and scouted for one online. I found one guy who was interested, so we tried him out today. Take note here that nobody else bothered to contact any musicians online or offline to try and find a drummer; this was my work. This guy was great! He played a brilliant range of styles, kept a solid rhythm, had a light-handed and jazzy touch on the kit and was trying out all sorts of ideas at our suggestion. I liked him, but the others were a bit more reticent. Granted the guy spoke a lot, and mentioned a lot of famous players as a bit of a name-dropper, but he was a good drummer. Guitarist dude seems to be wanting to keep the band more open-ended, with a view to tacking on more musicians. However he is doing very little to recruit more musicians beyond asking his immediate friend circle. He seems like he does't want to ever be rushed to do something, yet he wants a degree of autonomy over this band (he can write songs, whereas I can write bass lines, so this does give him some authority I guess). If I can pin the issue down to one thing, the problem is that the guitarist wants control but is too meek and docile to actually force any sort of progress ahead. Musically big ego, but personality of a self-effacing shrinking violet. I suppose my pet peeves are: I don't want to be sucked into making minimal-volume aloof finger-picky acoustic music without any balls. Some of the acoustic-y stuff is self indulgent. I don't like having nothing to do while a symphony of interestingly voiced chords is reeled off by a guitarist staring at their shoes. I don't want to let a good drummer slip through our fingers because the guitarist doesn't like his personality. I don't want to wait months to find a mythical flutist or violinist, only to go through the same process as above. I have a pile of bass gear I want to use! The weird thing is that the guitarist has apparently withheld starting a family because he wanted 'the music thing' to take off. Yet in our main band I had to bully the guys into releasing their first album (recording years prior to my joining) as they wanted to dribble out 3-song EPs at a glacial speed. Nothing moves especially quickly, and it annoys me. So yeah, I'm looking for other bands. I've messaged the drummer and said 'the others are looking to keep our options open, but I'm happy to play with you again', and I've kept fighting the drummer's corner. Anything else?