gettin sick of my "musical" bandmates!

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous [BG]' started by Wes I AM, Sep 27, 2001.

  1. Wes I AM

    Wes I AM

    May 27, 2000
    Tampa, FL
    Hey guys. I just wanted to ask if any of you guys ever get sick of y'alls bandmates? Lately mine (a guitar player and a drummer) have been playing the same old **** i've heard a million times before and when i get bored as hell of it they get mad at me for not wanting to play along. I guess i'm just a real perfectionist but i get so damn bored with the same old "metal" riffs. I want something with substance!!! ahh well. later fellas.
  2. Comakazi


    May 3, 2001
    Midwest US
    Yea, man, I feel ya. I play with my best friend (a guitarist) and there times when I really just don't want to play his stuff. It's not that it's bad, not at all. It's just boring some times and I don't know how to push him in some other directions, or even if he wants to go other places, ya know?
    But I'm stuck, I don't want to outright say, "Dude, I don't want to play that anymore, I'm gone."
    But I feel I'm not growing any either. I just recently purchased a fretless and I thought he was going to s*** when I told him. I know he was thinking I was going to want to do weird, soft, stuff -- I just want to broaden it all, and work on different styles and have different textures...oh well.
  3. I've found myself in this predicament in the past, and have come up with a simple, effective solution:

  4. brianrost

    brianrost Gold Supporting Member

    Apr 26, 2000
    Boston, Taxachusetts
    Of course!!!

    When you first get together there is a thrill of discovery and exploration.

    Then you reach a period (hopefully) where the band is all on the same page with a common purpose.

    After a while, one or more members may get itchy for something a bit different and that's to be expected.

    It's really a matter of what you're willing to tolerate. If the band is playing well, gigging steadily, making $$$$ but you feel stale you might be less inclined to quit than if the band has been in the basement for 4 years, never landed a gig and you feel stale :)

    I do a lot of free lancing which helps keep me from going nuts with my main band. It gives me other outlets to keep my juices flowing.
  5. Bass Guitar

    Bass Guitar Supporting Member

    Aug 13, 2001
    I do that for the same reason - the trick is to play in different bands and situations in different genres of music - jazz, blues, rock, punk, ska, dance etc. - it keeps you on your toes, and you don't get bored.
  6. Josh Ryan

    Josh Ryan - that dog won't hunt, Monsignor. Supporting Member

    Mar 24, 2001
    I've occasionally been frustrated enough to quit. When this happens I force myself, which is REALLY hard, to fight it out with them. I know your pain.:(