I'm turning 40 tomorrow. I spent about an hour yesterday texting my guitarist back and forth. He said his parents are moving to Ohio, but he is going to stay behind to be with his girlfriend. This guy has no job, no car, and no money; and he knows that has to change. With him finally getting a job I feel this is the end of our pretty inactive band, but I couldn't care less. I'm just so sick of writing egos, girlfriends butting in, revolving drummers, and volume wars. Yesterday I also backed my long time friend at a coffee house gig. It was great: laid back and a lot of fun. My buddy wants me to back him up whenever I can, but if I can't its not a big deal. It seems for a while there I forgot why I play music. I was so wrapped up in trying to get gigs and write totally awesome songs that I wasn't having fun. So as I get older I'm also getting wiser. Life is way too short to get stressed out from your hobbies, and hoarding high end gear isn't appericated by your audience, either. So right now I'm very content with being just a "fool on a stool." I'm starting to realize what's important, and being in a crappy band that sounds like a million other crappy bands isn't.