Guys: I think i'm in the perfect band.

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by Famuus, Dec 30, 2014.

  1. Famuus


    Feb 23, 2011
    Good day fellow bass players.

    I have been browsing these forums for a long time but haven't really posted anything yet. Here's one of my first.

    I see alot of complaining of all kinds on these pages. All kinds of story's about out of rythem drummers, guitar players who don't know poopie about playing bass (gui****s) but have a big mouth about it, gear that brakes down, … ect ect.....

    I don't know why, but i have a feeling i just want to share this with you guys. I think i'm in the perfect band. I'm not saying we are the best band in the world music wise, i mean it just works. I'll try to keep this as short as possible.

    Two years ago i got a phone call from a Guitar player who was looking for a bassist to fill in for one gig. It were all originals but the set was short enough. We had one rehearsal and five days later we kicked ass. We weren't the most tight playing bunch but we dit okay and the crowd agreed.

    Now it's a while later and a few months ago we kicked out our drummer. We found a new one after testing a few out and we are playing together for about 6 months now and have been doing alot of gigs.

    But now comes the nice part:

    We are a three piece band. First off all there's the guitarplayer/leadsinger who's just great. He became a real friend and let's me be a part of the Band. He plays well but gives me enough space to do my thing. And everytime i come up with a nice groove to one of his songs he realy appreciates it. He sometimes picks up my bass and playes it for fun, but he's never a dick about it. He calls me Mr.bassface and hands me the instrument after like ten minutes and goes 'Euh... i'll just let you handle this thing..'

    He's not afraid of not playing and just let the music breath. Technically he's not the best player out there, but he's the best band member you can have. He writes most of the songs but allows me to do some writing and just plays what i tell him to play.

    The drummer, who's the newest, is awsome. He plays a minimalisctic kit but get's alot out of it. Our last drummer was always overplaying. But this guy just locks in with me, makes some funny faces and rocks on.

    But the best part might be the way we do stuff. We all have our place and nobody seems to mind. The guitar player does the writing (most of it) and when he comes up with a new song we just do our thing to it. I always get alot of space to PLAY my instrument. If i wanne play the low regions i can, but if i wanne do some Queen/Muse kinda thing i'm also allowd. I put my signature on the music. Wich is the thing, i believe, that sepparates a band from a singersongwriter.

    I am more the PR man, i put alot of work in arranging gigs, getting our music out there and selling CD's, T-shirts, ….I'm doing a good job so they just let me.

    The drummer hasn't got an extra task yet but he's still working on getting our songs locked in. But when we gig he just picks up alot of stuff and loads it in and out of the van. As if saying 'hey, you guys do your thing, i'll do mine.'

    At last, there is the way we communicate. When one guy plays something that doesn't sound right we just go 'Hey man, that sounds like sh*t, play something else'.
    We almost never dissagree on that stuff. And when we do. There's three of us so... voting is always the way to go. When a vote is in we go that way. No questions asked.

    I know this was a wall of text but. …. hey i just wanted to share. So to all of you people who having problems with your band. Don't keep up with it, there are still great musicians out there.

    btw: I'm from Belgium, so my english.....

    I'm not trying to force my band on you guys, just a little clip:
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  2. PauFerro


    Jun 8, 2008
    United States
    This is great stuff!! The band is tight enough, and the vocals are pretty good. I liked the harmonies. You guys look happening... The production/video is actually pretty good too! I liked how the editor faded the lead singer's counter line over the main performance.

    I'm glad everyone gets along well. It sounds like your band is applying all the right principles of team work -- getting the right people in the right place, letting people do their thing, being appreciative of their efforts, everybody lending a hand without being asked, and maybe even a bit of shared leadership, and honest communication (although I question using "that sounds like Sh** too often -- nicer phraseology could be used to stop that from turning into a relationship issue).

    My only advice is to not take the good relationships in the band for granted. In my experience, there is usually, eventually, some kind of conflict that can threaten relationships in the band, even when things are going well. It takes balancing everyone's needs, sometimes forgiving them, etcetera to keep it happening. You have to keep monitoring and investing in the relationships to keep them harmonious, or at least, functional.

    Nice to hear a good success here though.

    I do want to say this -- as someone who posts stuff that is often negative about my bands, I do it because I want perspectives on a situation I'm not decided on how to handle yet. Although positive stuff is great, it doesn't often make for interactive discussion. And i like to share it after the talkbassers have told me what they think about a challenging situation, I made up my mind, tried it, and it worked.

    Nonetheless, i appreciated your post and the opportunity to see your band. Good quality stuff in my view -- I'd buy the CD if all your stuff is a good as that. Any videos with some solos in them?
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  3. Joedog


    Jan 28, 2010
    Pensacola FL
    Sounds like you are all on the same page, musically AND mentally. Congrats, that's very often hard to find! :hyper:

    And WELCOME! :thumbsup:
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  4. hrodbert696

    hrodbert696 Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Fire the guitarist.

    Wait, what were we talking about?
  5. lfmn16

    lfmn16 Inactive

    Sep 21, 2011
    charles town, wv
    I thought we were supposed to fire the drummer. Maybe fire both and then rage quit talkbass! :D
  6. bassbully

    bassbully Endorsed by The PHALEX CORN BASS..mmm...corn!

    Sep 7, 2006
    Blimp City USA
    Very cool sound and video. I'm glad you think you are in the perfect band but you are wrong..I am! :smug:

    It's really cool when everybody is clicking, getting along well and respecting each other. Being in a band where you enjoy the music but not the hang can be miserable. Enjoy the ride as long as you can.
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  7. Gratz, buddy. Sounds like you're in a good place. Keep on, and keep having fun. Here's to you writing the band's next big single.
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  8. Famuus


    Feb 23, 2011
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  9. Really good ****, can tell by listening you guys have a good situation going on..

    Wish I could find something like that!
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  10. Famuus


    Feb 23, 2011
    Tnx man!
  11. p-lo


    Jun 18, 2010
    St. Louis, MO
    Sounds great. As soon as i heard your singers voice I thought of Matthew Sweet.

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  12. Sounds like Green Day to me. I think thats a good thing?
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  13. squidtastic

    squidtastic Supporting Member

    Apr 23, 2013
    Nice post. And I think we have the same bass!
  14. chaosMK


    May 26, 2005
    Albuquerque, NM
    Too much hip thrust
    Congrats, it's great when a band is working all harmoniously (I suppose people post less often about that on here!). My opinion is that it takes stars to cross for a great band to form and just as importantly for the group stick together long enough to produce anything good. The music is alright. It's not really br00tal enough for me. ;)
  15. The facebooks link pushed it over the top. I initially just felt you were being pushy, but now I feel totally violated, in my ears. But violated in a good way, like when she grabs you by the hair and slaps the fuzzy handcuffs on your wrists and sings sweet, sweet melodies in your ear. That kind of violation.

    I really like what you came up with for the bassline. Melodic yet always groovey and in the pocket. THAT'S a bass man right there. If you play your cards right, I'll let you open for my band! :p

    Who was the production company on your video by the way? That was all pro and better than the cats we found locally here in Seattle.

    And get your stuff on itunes at least! :thumbsup:
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  16. There's nothing like having 'the perfect chemistry' in a band. Right up until I retired from gigging, I was in the same band for almost 25 years. And, not one time did we ever get in a dust-up over anything. It was the most democratic situation I've ever been in. It certainly made gigging fun. They're also my best friends, till this very day. We know each other so well, that we can all practically have a conversation in a crowded room full of people just by simple eye contact. Hell, all our families even take our yearly vacations together. It's pretty cool, to say the least. Enjoy it, as it doesn't come along very often, if ever in ones life.
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  17. bassbully

    bassbully Endorsed by The PHALEX CORN BASS..mmm...corn!

    Sep 7, 2006
    Blimp City USA
    My last originals band ran smooth as silk. There was never a fight, heated words or even the evil eye from one member to the other. We truly liked being together at practice, studio and stage.
    Sadly after 4 years it ended but we all remained friends. The funny thing is that BL went on to form a new band. Some of the songs are from the old band but allot are new and so is the music to some degree.

    Stumbling on his bands CL post has me back now where I belong, holding down the bottom for the band. Feel's great.

    Playing with people you enjoy being with is a great thing. Look at all the big national bands that hate each other and sometimes break up what was a hit making group.
  18. Spent


    May 15, 2011
    Upstate NY
    This sounds like my original band. I really like my cover band, we get great gigs and make more than I think we should, but I just love playing with the original project. Our drummer moved away last year, but just came back. We're playing on Thursday for the first time in many months and I can't wait. The cover band has a New Year's Eve gig at a really cool place and then we're playing one of the best venues in the area, a nationally known spot, on Saturday. What am I looking forward to? Jamming with the original band on Thursday. When a band clicks it's awesome! Nice to hear others are out there.
  19. Awesome stuff, Famuus!! Well done.

    Some people assume Belgium is boring, but it really does have a lot to offer the world: amazing beer, Baroque paintings, beautiful lacework, artisan chocolates, your band's music and Jean Claude Van Damme... no... actually, you can keep Jean Claude Van Damme.

  20. groovatron


    Mar 11, 2010
    Great video.....I wish you guys many years of good times! Enjoy them! You'll never regret it:)