I haven't been on here in a while, frankly because I've been given a tough task that has killed my inspiration to play, let alone look at anything bass related. I've been selected to fire my drummer. Here's a little back story: A few months back, we got a new guitarist (an old friend of mine, and a damn good guitarist) to add to the band. Once he came into the band, we started writing stuff that was way better than before. Problem is, our drummer doesn't seem to be able to keep up. Normally, it wouldn't be a problem to kick someone out of the band due to their inability, but there are things withstanding that make it hard. 1) He's a hard worker. 2) He does a ton of other stuff for the band. 3) He's become a good friend to all of us, me especially. He's had me over his home, fed me, and let me spend many a night on his sofa. 4) He came up with the band name, logo, and found the guy to do our website. Now, there are some negatives, otherwise there would be no consideration of getting rid of him. For instance: 1) He has no internal timing (but he's working on it) 2) He says he can't work with a metronome, it makes him worse. 3) He refuses all outside help. 4) He doesn't look at anything as a challenge, but he looks at things as impossible. (this is my biggest gripe). Recently, I had a sit down with him to kinda give him a notice that things were going down if they didn't improve. I got kinda harsh because I was a bit buzzed (I couldn't tell him sober, it'd break his heart). Since then he's told the other guys he's felt ostracized. I can't look him in the face half the time knowing what I've got to do. Oh, and by the way, if you're wondering why I'm the guy who's got to do it, here's the reasons...The first guy that got kicked out of the band, Ken (our main guitarist and co founder) kicked out our singer who was his best friend. So, he doesn't want to do it again. I can't blame him. Joe (our newest guitarist) says he doesn't feel right doing it because he's the new guy in the band and doesn't feel that it's his place to kick out an older member. Mark (our singer) would flat out be rude about it (he's the one most disappointed in Matt). So, that leaves me. It also doesn't help that life has been raining sh*t on Matt for the past couple of months. He's been struggling with cash, and his live in girlfriend lost her job. Then, as recent as last week, she calls me to tell me that she may have cervical cancer. Kicking him out of the band would be the last thing he needs. What do you guys think and suggest?