How do you tell a guy you're not interested?

Tell him you're not gay. That's what I tell the guys that try to hit on me.

 

Don't go out to dinner. Go out for a coffee in the afternoon first. It's less of an initial responsibility with length of time because you can easily say "oh sorry, I have something else going on today".

Also, by lying to him (smiling, pretending to like him) you're only worsening the problem. The trick is to not lead him on.

You can avoid this altogether by going out to coffee!

 

give em the rejection hotline

 

You play bass. Take that 9lb. piece of wood and swing it like a bat.

 

If the guy doesn't have enough feelings (or radar or antennae) to catch your feelings than he is blunt. There is definitely no communication there Just say "thank you for the date, but I really need a guy with long hair".

 

At which point I can give you my number.

 

Have first date sex with him... then tell him you love him.

You'll never have to worry about seeing that dude ever again!!

 

Or mine (number that is)

 

In your case, some blunt honesty might do the trick. I mean, the guy focused on himself for most of the date, from how you're describing it.

Problems to cite:
- you two are not compatible; you're looking for a much different kind of guy
- the date was uncomfortable
- he's rude!

However, I'm part of a dying breed of guys who actually still open doors for women, give them space to talk about themselves, and pay for their desserts... so my opinion probably isn't worth much.

 

I can. The only times girls do the radiant smile is when I say "Well... I have to go..." or something similar. Otherwise it's the polite smile.

 

If I ask a girl to coffee,,,then that means I'm interested. A dinner is formal. A coffee,,,then I'm checking you out to see where your head is at. Nope. coffee is dangerous.

 

Either that or emphasize the "M" word numerous times. Has the same effect.

 

the more you do to piss him off the less likely he will be to even try and talk to you. unless of course he snaps and gets stalky or violent.

 

From what you are saying about the date he doesn't pick up on clues very easily. You'll have to be blunt. Just do it.

You've got nothing to gain by being vague. Most guys take advantage of women cause we know they really don't want to be hurtful.

You've kissed the frog once, that will do.

 

When you see things are quickly going downhill, try this: "I guess I must have misread you, and I'm sorry I wasted your time but I gay, and I thought YOU were too!". Then after that bombshell sinks in: "It looks like my "GAYDAR" is on the fritz tonight, it does that sometimes when my infection becomes active and I can't read people as well as I normally do.. I date gay men because I feel safe with them".. He'll be a bumbling fool by that time.. looking for any excuse to 'cut and run'.. Problem solved!

 

If he doesn't have any connection to any of your friends/family/co-workers, just use those 3 magical words...



I have AIDS.

 

Tell him your ex called and you're going to give it another try.