I went on a CRAPPIE date. UGH. Guy started off by grossing me out at dinner by taking HUGE bites of food, and then talking and laughing with his mouth open so I could see his lovely chewed-up food. Then he went on and on and on and on about nutrition and nutritional deficiencies (he's a nutritionist) to which I politely listened to, but tried not to encourage the conversation. He made horrible jokes all night, which I gave a polite smile to and then he'd proceed to smack me in the arm and say "get it? Get it? You get it, right?" I tried to end the date nicely by saying "I'm so tired, thank you for a nice evening but I'm going to head home now" to which he said "Oh, can I get you some caffeine? Want some ice cream?" I gathered my things and walked out to the car where Mr. Clueless tried to kiss me but I dodged gracefully and gave him a butt-out butterfly hug (where you hug with your butt sticking out and give the butterfly pat on the back) and then jumped in my car and closed the door so fast his hair blew back. I always try to be nice when I'm not interested, but I've found that simply saying "You're nice but I don't feel a connection" is followed by begging and/or "give me another chance." So then I have to keep saying it until they get it, or be mean, which I hate. Is it best to be extra blunt, you know like the band-aid approach (just rip it off quickly!)? Does saying things like "you're nice" or "I had fun but..." only encourage and give hope? I always thought I was softening the blow. How about the guy approach and not returning phone calls? This guy is calling...and calling...and calling and so far I haven't answered because I don't know what to say.