How important is it for me to be right?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by slobake, Oct 10, 2016.


  1. Never met a carrot I didn't like

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  2. Why I oughta ...

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  3. Having a good discussion is more important than being right

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  4. What's the problem? I'm alway right so get over it.

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  5. Tuna Noodle Casserole is NEVER right!

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  6. Would you rather be right or left (by yourself)

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  7. People who always have to right are wrong

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  8. I hate myself but if people would just listen to me I could straighten them out

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  9. Move along folks, nothing to see here.

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  1. It's not as important to be right as it is to convince other people you are right.
     
  2. I'm going to stop you right there...
     
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  3. blastoff99

    blastoff99 Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Dec 17, 2011
    Under the flight path
    One of my lifelong learning tasks is to learn to sometimes let other people have their way even when they're not right. While this includes 'This hill is not worth dying on,' it's not limited to that. I've had to learn that I don't necessarily see the world the way others do, and if I present a solution to a problem, it's entirely possible that not only will nobody else have thought of this, they won't understand it - or they won't like it. I'm NOT saying that I'm smarter than everybody and I present solutions that are so sophisticated that the idiots simply don't have the mental wherewithal to process what I'm saying. My solutions can be... different.

    Not only do people sometimes not understand or like them, I don't understand why they don't understand or like them! Hey, if it works, why not do it? Sure, if there's a reason that makes sense to me, I can often be very easily persuaded that my way is not viable. But I have a lot of trouble with 'I don't like this' as an objection. WHY don't you like it? Explain it to me so I can understand (and probably twist your arm).

    I don't always get to understand. And I don't always get to solve the problem. Sometimes I get to save a relationship instead, and this is frustrating because that's another thing I don't understand: If you don't like my solution to this problem we're trying to solve, why do *I* have to be the one to back down to save the relationship? And why is the relationship so fragile that we can't just butt heads, figure something out, leave with someone temporarily unhappy, and get back to work with no hard feelings the next day?

    People are so complicated.
     
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  4. 48thStreetCustom

    48thStreetCustom

    Nov 30, 2005
    Colorado
    "Am I right?
    Am I right?
    Yeah, I'm lonely and I'm right"

    Fair
    Ben Folds Five

     
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  5. buldog5151bass

    buldog5151bass Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.

    Oct 22, 2003
    Connecticut
    It's not important for you to be right. It's important for ME to be right.
     
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  6. Steve

    Steve

    Aug 10, 2001
    the importance of a person being right is dwarfed by the importance of a person being able to admit they are wrong
     
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  7. I'm kinda stuck with some people right now that always have to be right, and to be honest, it's been a dominant part of me for a long while too. I'm trying to chill out, but hey, not being a turd isn't something you put to practice too quickly.
     
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  8. sissy kathy

    sissy kathy Back to Bass-ics Gold Supporting Member

    Apr 21, 2014
    Arbutus, MD
    It's very important for me to be right. I usually stake out my position after some research though; also on those rare occasions where I am wrong, I want to be wrong for as short a time as possible. If you think I'm wrong, feel free to correct me and tell me why. I'm not trying to convince others I'm right, I'm not a teacher.
     
  9. CatSquare

    CatSquare

    Mar 7, 2014
    People that have to be right all the time repulse me. I try to distance myself from them as soon as possible.
     
  10. Watch yourself when distancing...

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  11. GIBrat51

    GIBrat51 Innocent as the day is long Supporting Member

    Well, personally I don't think it's very important at all for you to be right. And, seeing as how I am (by definition, royal decree, and grace of the Almighty) always right, I'd say that settles that....:whistle:
     
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  12. Spidey2112

    Spidey2112

    Aug 3, 2016
    Sometimes, I'm in conflict with myself, as I tend to both agree, and disagree, on things I haven't yet spoken of...
     
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  13. Fat Freddy

    Fat Freddy Supporting Member

    Feb 23, 2016
    Albany NY
    I'm usually wrong....Sad really....:(
     
  14. slobake

    slobake resident ... something

    Hey look at that. You're right.
     
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  15. slobake

    slobake resident ... something

    Sometimes I get so mad I don't talk to myself for weeks.
     
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  16. Fat Freddy

    Fat Freddy Supporting Member

    Feb 23, 2016
    Albany NY
    So one of the few times that I'm right is because I'm usually wrong?....

    Even sadder....:rollno:
     
  17. Spidey2112

    Spidey2112

    Aug 3, 2016
    Good thing you don't like salt...
     
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  18. wraub

    wraub

    Apr 9, 2004
    ennui, az
    It is less right for you to be right than is is for me to be right, which, obviously, is more right.
    Proved by science folks, you can't argue with that.
    It's so obvious, it's obviously true. Everyone is saying this.
     
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  19. sissy kathy

    sissy kathy Back to Bass-ics Gold Supporting Member

    Apr 21, 2014
    Arbutus, MD
    I ready to admit that you're always right; as long as you agree with me.
     
  20. Fat Freddy

    Fat Freddy Supporting Member

    Feb 23, 2016
    Albany NY
    I don't agree with you......See?....I'm probably wrong yet again....:unsure:
     
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