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Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by slobake, Oct 10, 2016.
It's not as important to be right as it is to convince other people you are right.
I'm going to stop you right there...
One of my lifelong learning tasks is to learn to sometimes let other people have their way even when they're not right. While this includes 'This hill is not worth dying on,' it's not limited to that. I've had to learn that I don't necessarily see the world the way others do, and if I present a solution to a problem, it's entirely possible that not only will nobody else have thought of this, they won't understand it - or they won't like it. I'm NOT saying that I'm smarter than everybody and I present solutions that are so sophisticated that the idiots simply don't have the mental wherewithal to process what I'm saying. My solutions can be... different.
Not only do people sometimes not understand or like them, I don't understand why they don't understand or like them! Hey, if it works, why not do it? Sure, if there's a reason that makes sense to me, I can often be very easily persuaded that my way is not viable. But I have a lot of trouble with 'I don't like this' as an objection. WHY don't you like it? Explain it to me so I can understand (and probably twist your arm).
I don't always get to understand. And I don't always get to solve the problem. Sometimes I get to save a relationship instead, and this is frustrating because that's another thing I don't understand: If you don't like my solution to this problem we're trying to solve, why do *I* have to be the one to back down to save the relationship? And why is the relationship so fragile that we can't just butt heads, figure something out, leave with someone temporarily unhappy, and get back to work with no hard feelings the next day?
People are so complicated.
"Am I right?
Am I right?
Yeah, I'm lonely and I'm right"
Ben Folds Five
It's not important for you to be right. It's important for ME to be right.
the importance of a person being right is dwarfed by the importance of a person being able to admit they are wrong
I'm kinda stuck with some people right now that always have to be right, and to be honest, it's been a dominant part of me for a long while too. I'm trying to chill out, but hey, not being a turd isn't something you put to practice too quickly.
It's very important for me to be right. I usually stake out my position after some research though; also on those rare occasions where I am wrong, I want to be wrong for as short a time as possible. If you think I'm wrong, feel free to correct me and tell me why. I'm not trying to convince others I'm right, I'm not a teacher.
People that have to be right all the time repulse me. I try to distance myself from them as soon as possible.
Watch yourself when distancing...
Well, personally I don't think it's very important at all for you to be right. And, seeing as how I am (by definition, royal decree, and grace of the Almighty) always right, I'd say that settles that....
Sometimes, I'm in conflict with myself, as I tend to both agree, and disagree, on things I haven't yet spoken of...
I'm usually wrong....Sad really....
Hey look at that. You're right.
Sometimes I get so mad I don't talk to myself for weeks.
So one of the few times that I'm right is because I'm usually wrong?....
Good thing you don't like salt...
It is less right for you to be right than is is for me to be right, which, obviously, is more right.
Proved by science folks, you can't argue with that.
It's so obvious, it's obviously true. Everyone is saying this.
I ready to admit that you're always right; as long as you agree with me.
I don't agree with you......See?....I'm probably wrong yet again....
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