How long would you have stayed (people being tardy)

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by glocke1, Dec 13, 2014.

  1. glocke1

    glocke1 Supporting Member

    Apr 30, 2002
    Got a call earlier in the week, one of the groups I play with wanted to rehearse and evaluate a potential new singer.

    I text the guitar player yesterday asking for confirmation and time, and was told yes and seven pm. I show up at seven, as do the other other people. The guitar player did not show up till nine. Rented studio, I had other things I needed to do early Sat morning also and wasn't planning on staying late, so messed around a little with the guys that were there from 7-9 and was ready to pack up and leave when the guy that was MIA showed up. He set up, I stuck around until ten pm than split, and those guys were looking at me like *** while I was packing up my gear.

    I suspect that even before the rehearsal started the guy was going to be very late and did not tell me since he knew I would probably bail before hand (i would have). I like the guy and enjoy playing with him, but I also like my limited free time more and would have appreciated the ability to make the decision myself on how to manage it when someone is going to be late (2 hours late at that).
  2. FretNoMore

    FretNoMore * Cooking with GAS *

    Jan 25, 2002
    The frozen north
    Two hours late, and without calling to let you know? Ridiculous. That needs a serious conversation, I would not accept that someone disrespects other people and their time (and money too in this case) that way.
  3. glocke1

    glocke1 Supporting Member

    Apr 30, 2002

    Yeah...thats my feeling. Hell, its not like we are kids anymore...everyone has other responsibilities and I honestly wish I had the kind of time to kill these days that would allow me to wait two hours for someone but the fact is I don't, hell I let people know even if I am going to ten minutes late
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  4. Without a phone call, a half hour is all you're likely to get from me.
  5. FretNoMore

    FretNoMore * Cooking with GAS *

    Jan 25, 2002
    The frozen north
    If it's more than 10-15 minutes we expect to get a text message or phone call in advance from our band mates. If someone is later than 30 minutes without a message then we would worry something serious has happened - or once in a while if it's the drummer :) that he has forgotten we have moved a reheasal to another day (usually no problem though since he lives within walking distance).
  6. RoadRanger

    RoadRanger Supporting Member

    Feb 18, 2004
    NE CT
    Time to move on - life's too short to play with arsehats...
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  7. RustyAxe


    Jul 8, 2008
    Some professional bands assess "fines" for such things. You guys might want to consider it.
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  8. fdeck

    fdeck Supporting Member Commercial User

    Mar 20, 2004
    Madison WI
    HPF Technology LLC
    Make the late guy pay for the additional time at the rehearsal studio.
  9. bassbully

    bassbully Endorsed by The PHALEX CORN BASS..mmm...corn!

    Sep 7, 2006
    Blimp City USA
    You gave way more time than I would have and had all right to bail early. For the guy not to even call is a bad move on his part. I once did an audition where the diva lead singer was over an hour late with no call.
    Even though she was late she never apologized and had a "tude" the rest of the night. I never went back.
  10. Not yet

    Not yet

    Mar 26, 2012
  11. Son of Wobble

    Son of Wobble

    Mar 8, 2010
    Two hours late in rock and roll is a punchable offense.
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  12. Mark_70


    Dec 31, 2013
    10 min and we are getting annoyed.. We are all busy and have better stuff to do..

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  13. I was raised to be early, lived 20 miles out of town, and got left behind more than once as a kid.

    So not surprisingly, it's difficult for me to tolerate lateness at all, but with a phone call or text with a status update, I'll usually wait a long time for someone who has a real reason that's holding them up.

    With no phone call/text, the band goes on without them after about 10 minutes, rehearsing vocals or some other sectional work that might need attention without the whole band. If they show up too late to have a full band rehearsal, we don't go long just to accommodate the late arriver(s).

    If it's for an audition, or some important function, well, there will be a tough conversation soon to follow...

    All the best,

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  14. Yango

    Yango Inactive

    Apr 14, 2008
    Probably an hour, no more than that. If other people can't be bothered, then neither can I.
  15. friendlybass

    friendlybass Guest

    Jul 19, 2012
    I have three time scales for just this situation.
    #1. Same situation, 20-30 minutes
    #2. Same situation +pizza, 45-1hr
    #3. Same situation +Beer and pizza, 2hrs max.

    Given the lack of beer and pizza, I would not stay. I would also let the guitar dude know this really wasn't cool and if he needs time to just call.
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  16. lfmn16

    lfmn16 Inactive

    Sep 21, 2011
    charles town, wv
    You're leaving off a pretty important detail - what did the gui**** say? If he didn't have a good excuse I would have left when he got there and let him know that next time would be the last time. People only take advantage of you if you let them.
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  17. glocke1

    glocke1 Supporting Member

    Apr 30, 2002
    he didnt say anything...not to me anyway.

    i am pretty sure he had notified the other guitar player earlier in the day that he'd be late but that information was not passed onto anyone else.
  18. hdracer


    Feb 15, 2009
    Elk River, MN.
    And a full on rat pack in a punk band.
  19. lfmn16

    lfmn16 Inactive

    Sep 21, 2011
    charles town, wv
    The plot thickens. I think I'd have a serious talk with both of the idiots. If they are too rude and/or stupid to share info, I think I'd move on.
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  20. Lobster11

    Lobster11 Supporting Member Supporting Member

    Apr 22, 2006
    Williamsburg, VA
    So maybe it was just an honest mix-up between the two of them as to who was supposed to contact everyone else?

    Aw, screw it. Fire the drummer, then rage-quit.
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