How much into "The Hang" are you ?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by glocke1, Jul 15, 2013.

  1. glocke1

    glocke1 Supporting Member

    Apr 30, 2002
    I do enjoy playing music, and for the most part enjoy playing in bands that play out...One thing I am not really into these days is "The Hang".

    By this I mean I really prefer to just come in, setup, play, tear down and get home...You can also pretty much forget about me attending any hang out sessions (i.e. drink and smoke) where there is no playing involved..

    This is primarily driven by a busy life (work, chores around the house, and other hobbies).

    Now, this wasn't always the case...but as I have gotten older I have found that I enjoy keeping busy and getting things done more than I do sitting around doing nothing...
  2. After gig hanging out has fallen by the wayside for me too. Once in awhile a session is called but no expectations that it'll end in memory loss.
  3. father of fires

    father of fires Commercial User

    Nov 29, 2006
    Chief of Medicine at Damnation Audio
    Maybe it's because I'm always busy but for me the hang is the only social time I get. I enjoy it immensely and look forward to it as much as playing.
  4. Duckwater


    May 10, 2010
    USA, Washington
    My bandmates are some of the most interesting and intelligent people that I know, I love spending time with them even if we're not working.
  5. MrLenny1


    Jan 17, 2009
    New England
    Hang Time is minimal for me, everybody is busy.
    Were not 20 years old anymore but I do like to get together
    once in a while to promote comradery among the band.
  6. bass_walloper


    Aug 23, 2011
    Yes! That's me exactly!

    I've never been into the whole "musician lifestyle"-sorta thing. I just wanna play music!
  7. GKon

    GKon Supporting Member, Boom-Chicka-Boom

    Feb 17, 2013
    Albuquerque, NM
    I don't mind the hang IF my bandmates and I have similar tastes in what a good hang is.

    In the last band I was in, they were all about drinking beers and bar hopping, and just being goofy. I wasn't too into that, so I didn't hang with them much. That, however, was one of the points that rubbed them the wrong way, which led me to leave the band.

    I prefer to be friendly/friends with my bandmates, and like to hang out, but time is also a factor for me. I work a lot and give what little free time I have to gigs and rehearsal. It's difficult for me to find more free time just to hang out.
  8. theduke1


    Dec 22, 2010
    Sussex WI
    I too am very busy as are my bandmates. Our band lives by three rules family first, jobs second, then the band. We have known each other since high school but played in different bands until this year. It's about playing music, fun, and friendship. We get together for cookouts and out for dinner with spouses. But hanging just to drink not us!
  9. glocke1

    glocke1 Supporting Member

    Apr 30, 2002
    Yeah thats a pretty good point...If there were similar interests outside of music involved it would be a different story...Outside of music, the interests of the current group of people I am playing with all center around sports...The one time I did hang out with them after a rehersal all they talked about was baseball and hockey.

    I have zero interest in sports so felt pretty left out..

    Now..if they wanted to talk about guns, or blowing things up with Tannerite Id be all over that.
  10. metlman72


    Jun 29, 2011
    Long Island NY
    I think the hang is essential for networking before and after a show. This past weekend we did a show with a band up from Delaware. It was really cool to "hang with them" after there set. We play with a lot if the same bands on the regular so the hang is just a part of that.
  11. FretNoMore

    FretNoMore * Cooking with GAS *

    Jan 25, 2002
    The frozen north
    My band mates all live in another city, so I don't see them much other than for our once a week rehearsals - which sometimes is a lot of talking and not much organized playing - and when playing a show. The occasional dinner, and once in a while going to listen to some bigger name artist. We're all a bit older so there's not much partying or such going on, we're busy with work, family etc. The only hanging we do really is if there is a lot of dead time between setup and a show. The band is important, but not at the very top of the list.
  12. superdick2112

    superdick2112 Mile High Bassist

    Nov 20, 2010
    The Centennial State
    A big + 1.

    This is me exactly.
  13. Floyd Eye

    Floyd Eye Inactive

    Feb 21, 2010
    St. Louis
    My band mates are my friends. I enjoy hanging out with them and we do it once a week at rehearsal. Sometimes we just hang out and drink. Usually we jam.

    At a gig we set up, play, tear down and leave. Sometimes we stop at a restaurant and eat after. Usually not.
  14. the yeti

    the yeti

    Nov 6, 2007
    raleigh, nc
    i invited my current band and s.o.'s over for a meal. that's not something i'd normally do.
  15. Octaves


    Jun 22, 2012
    Well, I think, considering I like rehearsals better than actually playing live, the hang time for me would be during rehearsals, that's if I was even in a band right now! Hence why I eventually want to join a jam band, so i dont have to derive my income from music and be a slave to the trappings that come with it.

    Having said that, hang time would depend on venue and crowd. I don't like hanging out with plebs!
  16. gregmon79

    gregmon79 Supporting Member

    Dec 20, 2012
    Chicago IL

    You arent the only one. Im not 25 anymore and single with nothing really to do but work and play. Plus, I used to drink and drug, a lot, and dug that scene at the bars when we played or parties we played or wherever. Now a days I cant sleep in past 8 on the weekends even if I have a show and dont get home till 2 or 3. I dont drink or drug anymore either. I do get to the venue a little early to scope it out and make sure load in goes good but then as soon as were done playing, I pack my stuff up, say my goodbyes and Im out. Theres noting for me in that scene. If I want to hang with my band, I do it at practice or on other time. I have too much going on in life today to "hang" all the time. The only thing I miss out on a little is mixing with the other bands in the area and networking that way. But my guitarist and vocalist do a great job on that.
  17. "The Hang" means very little to me. I used to like it a lot more, but over time I found it made it harder to maintain a working relationship, especially when there were problems that needed to be addressed. As it stands now, if I never hung out with my bandmates it wouldn't matter to me at all.

    In my current band, some "hang" is unavoidable. You see, my father is the drummer. It works out okay because we have worked for a lot of the same companies over the years (we are both HVAC guys), so we have a long history of having to define our relationship in a working situation.

    I do occasionally go out with the singer in the band. We're the same age and have similar personalities. Other than that, the rest of us see each other only in the band context setting. We have two guitarists, one I've been playing with since last year, and to be honest I know nothing about him. For example, I know he's married but I don't know his wife's name. I know he has at least one kid, and he works for a company that builds school buses, but that's it.

    Honestly, I like it that way, and I think they do, too.
  18. CTC564

    CTC564 Gold Supporting Member

    Mar 7, 2011
    Toms River,NJ
    After gig party time? Rarely or never did I get involved...always liked the guys I played with but I was never into the drugs/alcohol/casual sex thing.

    Probably because I've always had a steady gf/wife and my first son was born when I was 21
  19. Thumpinshelton

    Thumpinshelton Supporting Member

    I have 2 members of my band that are really close friends of mine and we hang out a lot. I actually see one of them at my job everyday. As far as the rest of the band there isn't much hang time. I know back in the younger days after the gig we would all go and party hard until the sun rises, but since most of us are married and have professional careers now everything is calm.
  20. bolophonic


    Dec 10, 2009
    Durham, NC
    I have a busy life, so I look forward to band practice. My band has 15 members -- scientists, entrepreneurs, artists... a great assortment of interesting dudes, so the hang is important for me. I am a non-drinker with a young family, so I have no need to stick around after gigs besides a little networking/public relations.