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How to deal with a band member that dislikes every name you come up with?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by jaxom, Jun 8, 2018.


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  1. jaxom

    jaxom

    Aug 31, 2008
    New Castle, PA
    Long title... Sorry... Anyway our drummer & I have come up with probably 50 band names. Our guitar player immediatlei shoots them all down ( except 1 which I absolutely hated). He's come up with 3 or 4 himself they are all silly/funny names which I am not into... we are an original band in the Alternative rock/Power pop genre... Any suggestions on how to deal with this?
     
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  2. 1st Bass

    1st Bass

    May 26, 2005
    Forest Grove, OR
    Find another guitarist?
     
  3. Rule number 1: the day you start arguing about the bands name is the first day of the end of the band.
     
  4. Bodeanly

    Bodeanly Supporting Member

    Mar 20, 2015
    Chicago
    If guitarist is BL, go with whichever name he chooses. If he is not BL, remind him how many guitarists are out there.

    or

    Is there a local guitarist that he respects? You could pitch a band name, then say: "Yeah, well... I was talking to Player McGuitarist and he wished that he'd thought of that name first." Then pretend to tune your bass.
     
  5. Murder is only one option. There are many other scenarios in which the guitarist gets to live.
     
  6. Lowendtech

    Lowendtech Trending in no particular direction Supporting Member

    Ime, band names can be harder to settle on than songs to play. Inevitably, someone will have to compromise. We literally went through hundreds before we settled on something. I think we all compromised in the end just so we could start working on some promo stuff. Good luck. If y’all are into reading the same kind of books, that could help some. Lots of inspiration on that track.
    Of course, it’s of no help if you have a bunch of people that don’t take the time to read books (which is a small problem with a couple of my band mates). But I digress.
    Have fun with it is all I can offer.
     
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  7. arbiterusa

    arbiterusa

    Sep 24, 2015
    San Diego, CA
    Fire the drummer.
     
  8. PauFerro

    PauFerro

    Jun 8, 2008
    United States
    This is why I don't go with the peer based model of band relationships anymore. You have a great idea and someone with a strong personality who knows nothing about the subject matter blocks everything. I became what I call an enlightened entrepreneur and things go much better. You have to be conscious that you use your power wisely and get the best out of the band. And your turnover is the indicator of how good a leader you are. Good leaders retain good members.

    It sounds like this band is in trouble with this leading indicator. If he's this way on this issue, imagine how he'll be on other issues. the only saving grace I would give him is if he books gig. Those type of people are hard to find and should get some good say so in how to run the group for all their effort and sacrifice.

    Anyway, if the enlightened entrepreneur model isn't feasible due to a) lack of someone with the skills and b) no way of making it work with the band, You need to have a conversation with the band about how to decide. As a band you have to decide how to decide. Here are some methods.

    1) If an odd set of members, by a vote.
    2) If an even set of members, by a majority vote. If a tie, the leader breaks the tie.
    3) Everyone rates the band names on a scale of 1 to ten. Add up everyone's scores and the band name with the highest score wins.

    Now, this guy will likely resist these measures because he sounds alike an autocrat -- and he won't grant that kind of power to the band. I don't like the sound of this guy. I would only put up with him if he is a gig booker and I'm not expected to do anything but show up and play and get paid. If he's the gig booker, and otherwise decent to get along with, and has gigs on the horizon, I'd put up with it.
     
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  9. arbiterusa

    arbiterusa

    Sep 24, 2015
    San Diego, CA
    Younger folks seem to care about this more. My current band, literally the first name that anyone suggested, think it was the drummer, was the one we went with.

    My college band, we went through 200 names. Took weeks.
     
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  10. pcake

    pcake Supporting Member

    Sep 20, 2011
    Los Angeleez
    2 to 1 means you outvote him already.
     
  11. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man Gold Supporting Member

    Oct 19, 2011
    Minneapolis
    Everyone knows the most important thing about a band is the name, right?
     
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  12. take a vote and if he gets butthurt find a new guitarist
     
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  13. Samples of "good" and "bad/silly" band names?
     
  14. WillieB

    WillieB Battling Bass Guitar Bulimia since 1975 Gold Supporting Member

    Apr 26, 2010
    Columbus Ohio
    I would add that it could also be the day of the band picture or when you all just paid for matching "suits".
     
  15. WillieB

    WillieB Battling Bass Guitar Bulimia since 1975 Gold Supporting Member

    Apr 26, 2010
    Columbus Ohio
    Here's a suggestion that would be fun to try ...

    Let him make the band name HIS name the Joe Blow Band.

    Have him book a gig.

    Have all the band members agree to play all songs in a different key then what Joe blow thinks they are in!

    :)
     
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  16. oldrocker

    oldrocker

    Feb 13, 2005
    Long Island, NY
    I think you should make a TB poll. Include some of his names and some of the names you and the drummer came up with and let us pick.
     
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  17. Jewce

    Jewce

    Feb 23, 2018
    Santa Maria, CA
    Vote. Majority rules
     
  18. Wooly John

    Wooly John

    May 16, 2014
    Canada
    - have someone outside the band make the decision - is there someone you all trust, a music teacher, someone in a successful band, a friend? - give that person, or those people, a list and let them choose their favorites -
     
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  19. Siggy

    Siggy Supporting Member

    Mar 15, 2003
    Columbus Ohio
    It's like 4 or 5 parents trying to name 1 baby
     
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  20. JRA

    JRA my words = opinion Supporting Member

    suggest his name for the band: i.e., "the john doe band" --- if he agrees = you know where things are headed! if he doesn't agree: give him a choice between "the john doe band" and the band name you like. if he doesn't choose the one you like = you know where things are headed. good luck choosing a band name! :thumbsup:

    if he chooses "the john doe band" you and the drummer get to laugh at him! :D
     
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